Is the naive an insult or a touch?

Since you asked this question, it means that you have a "suspect" in mind, or someone labeled you as "naive". This happens almost with all at certain moments of life. So you are not alone. Another question: how to approach such a statement? Maybe we should take offense? Or be glad that someone admires you?

Of course, much depends on the context and intonation of the speaker. If the word "naive" is accompanied by insulting nouns and defiant tone, then there is no doubt: you wanted to offend. How in this case to act? Do not be offended! First, it turns out that the enemy's goal is achieved. Secondly, we still have to understand what "naive" means.

Another situation arises when neither the intonation nor the tone of the speaker can determine what meaning he puts in the epithet "naive". Whether it was regret for the irrevocable loss of one's own positive outlook on life or one's own immediacy, it's hard to say. Perhaps, for him, "naive" is stupid. Then, as a person, you are already uninteresting to him.

And let all these situations are different, they are united by the fact that the "denunciators" have invested a certain, albeit opposite, meaning in the concept of "naive". It turns out that they have no doubts about the meaning of the word. So do not try to change their point of view, if you do not like it. So you will save your nerves and time. But you need to determine your own opinion, and it's urgent. This will help you adequately behave in any such situation.

If you call yourself naive, it turns out that life presented you with a not very pleasant (or, if frankly, very bad) surprise that opened your eyes to the truth. And here you are in confusion: how to treat your own credulity - as idiocy or holiness?

First of all, calm down. Once you think about the meaning of what is happening, it means that you are not a stupid person, but quite sensible. What is the catch? Naive - what does it mean: good or bad? Neither one nor the other. It means normal, natural.

Naivety - like mosaic inclusions of childhood in a complex pattern of adulthood. Bad, if they are not at all. It turns out that a man is old with a soul and he has few reasons for optimism. Because such a person looks at everything through the prism of mistrust, and there are few good people on her way. The abuser can only be pitied.

If the verdict of naivete you yourself endured, well, most likely, you will not come to this rake. You will not be able to circle this way in a similar way , and you will treat people with greater caution. Definitely, this is a positive point. Just do not be embittered and consider the whole world hostile. Leave the place to trust, but to sincere people.

If there is a person near you who is deceived, and you think him naive, but you can not open your eyes, you will have to be patient. Indeed, it is painful to look at a girlfriend in love who does not want to notice adultery. However, by and large - this is the business of those two. Not yours. Councils will have the right to give, when she herself asks about it. Then, about everything you think, honestly. The choice: to accept a situation or to hide a head in sand - remains for it.