What makes a man a man, according to women

The concepts of masculinity are very diverse today. In recent decades The aesthetic views of both sexes have undergone significant changes. But nevertheless the main, basic signs and representations about what a woman should be, and what makes a man a man are unshakable.

What women think

All people are different. Every woman has her own ideal, which is formed as a result of imposing a variety of circumstances. If the girl grew up in a prosperous family, then her father is usually the main model for her with the subsequent choice of a partner in life. Otherwise, the question about what qualities a man should possess, she gives an answer herself, guided by her own life experience, as well as the opinion of authoritative people, mostly girlfriends.

Numerous polls of sociologists give an idea of the average views on the qualities that, in the opinion of women, an ideal man should have .

The power is there. What is not necessary?

In the first place is the power. What does it mean by respondents of different ages? Those that are younger, have in mind physical muscle power. This approach manifests an instinctive desire to obtain reliable protection and give birth to healthy offspring. Women who are in the "elegant age" for 30, attach great importance to moral strength, for them the courage and intelligence of the companion, his sense of humor, as well as such an important character trait as the ability to be condescending to the weaknesses of others are more important.

And, like torpedoes, are fixed ...

Purposefulness firmly ranks second among those advantages that ladies prefer. It hardly deserves the attention of the beautiful half of humanity that he does not know what he wants in life, and even more so is he who knows, but does nothing. The desire and ability to achieve one's own is what makes a man a man. This is considered not only by women, but also by the representatives of the stronger sex. However, even in purposefulness has its own proportionality. If a man at the decision of the task in question does not disdain meanness, flaxes intrigues and commits immoral acts, then not every woman will treat him with respect and understanding. In the end, Petr Petrovich Luzhin from the great novel by F. M. Dostoyevsky "Crime and Punishment" was also a very purposeful man, which did not stop him from being a scoundrel.

No sooner said than done

Obligation is what makes a man a man. If you promised, then be kind, do it. Word-tin. There is even something like an anecdote telling how a father inspires his son with the idea that a real man should have two main qualities: compulsion (if he has promised, he will certainly do it) and perseverance (never promising anything to anyone). This, of course, is a joke, but women do not like chatter. Men also do not respect them. It does not matter if a person says a lot, the main thing is that his speech is not stupid. Sometimes it is believed that laconicity is a sign of wisdom. This, alas, is not always the case, but if there is nothing to say, it's best to remain silent.

Gossip from the man's use should be completely excluded, they are forgivable only not very clever part of the female community.

Family and Children

The attitude to the family characterizes any person, regardless of gender. Historically, in the country where the peasants were dekulakized, the Orthodox "starred", and at the same time most of the men were "disliked". The general leveling made it difficult for the person to manifest the inherent strength of the producer's own sex, and sometimes husbands, unable to provide decent living to their families, themselves ceased to respect themselves. Women managed to keep their nature to a greater extent, and it can be confidently asserted that most of the families we hold are due to their efforts. Especially the wives appreciate when the husbands themselves, without reminding and persuading do what the man should do. This refers to heavy physical work around the house, other comprehensive care and even the implementation of basic hygiene rules.

A special place belongs to the attitude towards children. It is the father who must teach the sons of masculinity, as well as various life-giving skills. His role in the education of daughters has already been mentioned. The attitude to adoptive children is wisely said in the folk proverb: a real man, strangers children are not a hindrance, and the fool and his own are a burden.

Do not brag

The more a man stands at a higher stage of development, the less he wants to hyperbolize his dignity. Why exaggerate what is already enough? But ignorant and seized individual and fragmentary information the crook willingly to the right and left boasts of his "successes." A vivid example of such a "peacock" is derived in the comic image of Svirid Golokhvastov by the remarkable writer M. Staritsky. Gogol's Khlestakov is not inferior to him. Bragging is not a trait that makes a man a man, but quite the contrary.

Success created independently

"He made himself", - so the English call the one who achieved success through his own efforts and talent, and not through patronage or successfully married. It happens that the real man also inherits, but he will do everything to multiply it, and will not allow his waste. "Everything for the family!" Is his motto. But beggars and parasites in ladies are not in honor. A real woman would rather give preference to a man of a more modest prosperity who has achieved everything independently, than a rich man who has achieved well-being, wriggling and trading his conscience.

Appearance

Women like neat and tidy men, but they are annoyed by their excessively quivering attitude toward their own appearance. The desire to have comfortable clothes and shoes for all occasions and for any weather is commendable, in contrast to the dandy "shumotchnitsy." "You can be a sensible person and think about the beauty of nails," - said the classic. As in all other matters, moderation adorns "both the gray-haired old man and the young man."

What is he, a real man?

To my great regret, kindness did not enter this kind of "top parade" of men's values, valued by the beautiful half of humanity. Only the most intelligent women, who have received at times violent lessons of fate, are able to understand the importance of the aforementioned character trait. The ability to understand, regret and help, and not in words, but in deeds, is a sign of both true strength, and purposefulness, and beauty of the soul. There is no doubt that a good man will love his family, he has real friends, and it is quite possible that his success will not fail.