Early signs that you will be insulted in this relationship

At night, many girls dream of an ideal relationship. They paint their future life full of love and kindness. Of course, in these dreams there is no place for emotional and physical violence. None of us will not want to wish for himself a chosen one who will be a domestic tyrant, an evil, treacherous and calculating manipulator. We all aspire to mutual love, understanding and respect. We are convinced that we deserve a better share. It is unfortunate that the dreams of a good half of women are far from reality. In fact, instead of love and respect, they knew the pain, insult and humiliation.

The victims of domestic tyrants for various reasons can not appeal to help. Instead, stubborn statistics do this. Every minute in the world, 20 people become victims of violence from an intimate partner. This is a serious and common problem that can not be expected at the very beginning of a relationship. Before you are signs that will help you recognize a domestic tyrant.

The partner is too jealous and seeks to isolate you from society

Little jealousy will not interfere with healthy relationships. It's always nice to know that the spouse is worried and does not want to lose you. But when jealousy crosses all boundaries and becomes obtrusive, nothing but irritation does not bring it. You feel locked in a cage when your lover does not allow you to see your family and friends. He is always unhappy with your behavior, even if you just sit in a park on a bench, and an unknown man passed by you. He constantly says that you do not deserve his trust, he accuses you of treason and constantly checks your location through a satellite. Well, in the workplace you are assigned to follow an individual, although, probably, you do not yet know about it.

He is in a hurry with the wedding.

Today it is considered normal when a man and a woman live together without a stamp in their passport. In this way, people check relationships for strength and get to know each other better. Important steps, which is marriage, should not be done in a hurry. And now remember your situation. You were surprised when your spouse insisted on the wedding on the third day of dating. Then this surprise was with a plus sign. But now you are arguing for your excessive credulity.

You remember how blindly you believed this person who spoke beautiful words. Most of all, you remember this phrase: "I've never loved anyone like you." Many victims of violence at a psychotherapist's reception compare their relationship at the very beginning of the journey with a fairy tale. It was love at first sight, and the man literally worshiped his chosen one. Experts advise to perceive any manifestations of unearthly love with the utmost care.

Monitoring and tracking mobile phone

Nowadays, all people have at least one account on social networks, access to which is available from both the smartphone and the computer. For the sake of transparency, some couples do not hide passwords from their accounts in social networks. Partners trust each other when they leave the room for a few minutes and leave the computer on. The key here is trust. For example, a man understands that his wife will not rush to find dirt on him. On the other hand, he is not afraid of this, because he has nothing to hide.

It can grow into a real problem, if every evening you feel like you are on interrogation. It is difficult for you to draw a line between unfounded accusations and surveillance. Experts assure that in almost half the cases the negligent partner will follow through e-mail, text messages and accounts in social networks. He can extract the information he is interested in by fraud, and even apply force. However, you have every right to confidentiality. Other manifestations of unhealthy relationships are checking the mileage on the car of the spouse and the strict requirement not to attend corporate events.

Exaggerated claims

We all dream of looking good or improving day by day our professional skills. Someone wants to learn foreign languages or does yoga. We do this for ourselves and for our romantic partners. We strive to achieve new goals and dream to make a good impression. Any praise and delight from the beloved makes us feel our worth. However, sometimes things do not go as well as we want. We make mistakes, but we dare to hope for understanding and forgiveness.

There are no ideal people. For this reason, it is absolutely unacceptable to demand from the other half the impossible. When a partner puts high demands on you, he is in some way trying to humiliate you. Another form of derogatory behavior is the use of information related to your distant past against you. If your weakness and vulnerability is used against you, then the high-sounding words about love were a hoax.

Mood swings and attacks of anger

Some people cope with the stressful situation better than others. And what irritates one, does not cause any inconvenience to another. In order to get a man out of himself, it is necessary to try hard. Pay attention to sharp mood swings - this may indicate the unbalanced psyche of the partner. Well, if he reacts to what is happening so violently, that you become scared or embarrassed, exercise extreme caution. Your inner voice and instinct of self-preservation can not lie, they only protect you.

Accusation of all your problems

When a person's business goes badly, it's perfectly normal to look for the causes of your troubles somewhere on the side. This feature minimizes our suffering. Until then, until we spend a reasonable amount of time thinking, we will not take responsibility for what happened to us. But if you are dealing with a person who ignores all your arguments and blames only you for all mortal ills, this should become an alarm bell. Psychologists point to control phrases that convict the manipulator: "You make me angry" or "If it was not for your action, I would not be in such a bad mood all day." These words are signs of emotional violence, as well as a desire to relieve themselves of responsibility.

Cruelty to animals and children

Not every person is delighted with the sight of a small karapuz or is ready to keep pets in his apartment. There is nothing wrong with this until the trend becomes pathological. If you notice that it is a pleasure for the partner to bring the kids to tears or he kicks the cat passing by, consider this as a preemptive sign. Attitude towards helpless creatures is a projection that can be transferred to your life. Do not lose your vigilance.

You feel the pressure in the bedroom

Risky role-playing games increase the degree of passion in the bedroom. However, everything should be a mutual desire. When you feel pressure, pressure and coercion against what you do not want to do, it means only one thing: in such a rude form, the partner seeks to establish complete control over you. He does not respect any boundaries, and sometimes he devises sophisticated forms of pressure, saying the following: "If you love me, why do not you want to do it?" Another worrying bell can be enjoying cruel scenes in movies, frequent mentioning or dreams of rape.

A rigid gender framework

Your partner is convinced that a man must go to work and earn money. Well, the woman is assigned the role of keeper of the hearth. Therefore, you will not be happy if he sees a pin on the cabinet. And in your duties is "silent and listen." He will never help you in the household, even if you are forced to raise children and at the same time work.

Threats

If your spouse said these words: "I want to kill you" or "I could break your neck right now" - it can be regarded by you as a shock. We urge you to trust your instincts. Take it even more seriously, if, as the spouse admitted, he was cruel to his previous women.