Parting with a guy, how to survive a rift relationship

There are two types of people. The first is very difficult to build relationships and it is more difficult to break them if something does not suit you. The latter, on the contrary, easily lead novels and easily part. In order not to repeat mistakes in the new relationship, it is important to understand the cause of the disintegration of the old.

Some representatives of the weaker sex, having broken off relations with their partner, are asked by the question: "How to survive the parting with the guy?". Someone goes into work with a head and begins to make a career, choosing solitude. Someone, on the contrary, goes into a spree. Girls are disappointed in the opposite field and do not consider it necessary to understand the situation. They are not looking for new partners to create relationships. But this is not the way to happiness. How can a person be happy if he is not close to one who is close in spirit, one who will support in a difficult moment. It is very difficult to live without a second mat. Each of us wants a little care and warmth.

Experiencing parting with the guy, we are engaged in self-analysis. Again, conversations with the former begin. Again, once again, we attack the same rake. In order to be a happy person and find your soul mate, you need to competently compete. That's what we'll talk about.

First, you need to place all the points above the "and". If the relationship has run out, get the courage and take it for granted. Do not need to call the former, breathe into the phone, and watch him after work. Simply put, do not look for meetings. If, nevertheless, a parting with the guy happened, then one must leave, once and for all, without returning. If this is given to you with difficulty, you are trying to go to the same places where your ex is, then you need to observe the geographical distance. Try at least a short time to go somewhere, at the same time and divorced.

Try to do things you love, change, for example, work, and at the same time a phone number. If possible, live elsewhere. You need something to occupy yourself, bring your head and thoughts in order, calm down. After the parting with the guy happened, it will be hard only for the first few weeks, and then you will find yourself thinking that you no longer think about the fate of your ex, and your thoughts are occupied with other things.

Think about your hobbies. Perhaps, for the sake of the previous relationship, you had to sacrifice them. After all, it often happens that our partners are not satisfied with what we are passionate about. And we give up this occupation, just to please our second half. So this is the moment when you can enjoy your favorite pastime. It's time to live not for Vasya, but for yourself. In addition, it completely distracts you from bad thoughts.

Most important: if there was a separation from the guy, do not look for flaws in yourself. Very often the result of a break in relationships is a lowered self-esteem. This is inherent in both men and women, but women are more inclined to oppress themselves. For your wounds to heal, time must pass, sometimes years. And so that it does not go to waste, you need to learn to believe the opposite sex. The simplest method is to change the circle of communication. There are real friends, and there are friends for entertainment, with whom we spend our free time, relax, go to parties. So, with friends it will be more difficult, but friends can and be replaced. They need to be filtered out. True friends will always stay close to you, but if you lose a friend, you will hardly regret it.

And how to survive the separation from her husband? Is it worth maintaining friendly relations with the former?

It is impossible to say "yes" or "no" unequivocally. It is necessary to proceed from the situation, do you have common children, business. In that case, whether you like it or not, you will have to remain friends. The culture of the country, religion also influences. Maintaining a relationship, often the former spouses can not keep the emotional distance, they indirectly affect the life of each other. They have a sense of ownership, and subconsciously they do not want to see their ex with another person. In addition, they can remain just lovers, and this harms the building of new relationships. Probably, every person should decide for himself what he wants from the finished relationship. We need to analyze the situation and sort out first of all in ourselves. But even if you decide to remain friends, for the first time it's still worth taking a timeout. This is necessary to ensure that all your emotions and emotions subside, and you could soberly look at the situation.