Anna Bykova and her book "The Independent Child, or How to Become a" Lazy Mother ""

For the beautiful half of humanity, the child is the greatest revelation. Becoming a mother, a woman discovers a whole universe, the existence of which she had never suspected. Her inner world from this moment is transformed, filled with new colors and sounds. The desire to be a mother is one of the most powerful spiritual needs. There comes a time when it becomes simply necessary for someone to give their warmth and care. Conscious motherhood leads to a holistic perception of life, a true understanding of the essence of its feminine nature.

about the author

Anna Bykova - a specialist with experience, who has extensive experience in the field of child-parent relations. Many people turn to it, and each one receives individual attention. It has helped thousands of people to find harmony in the family, to understand their own children. Anna is a practicing psychologist, and also mother of two beautiful sons.

This amazing woman is the author of such works as "Is it good for a child in a children's collective", "Ten strategies for overcoming fears", "Psychological safety in school". In her books, Anna Bykova examines such questions: how to teach a child to collect toys with him, without caprice and hassle, to go to bed and eat independently. In her entertaining texts, the problem of establishing mutual understanding, issues of upbringing and development are reflected. Anna has a lot of diplomas and awards, she constantly passes courses of improvement of professional skill, is engaged in self-education.

The book "The Independent Child, or How to become a" lazy mother "" - one of the most famous in this author. It teaches the formation of a new perspective on what is happening.

Who benefits from independence

First of all, the child himself. True development is possible only in conditions of autonomy. Parents who control their child too much may notice that they have no desire to decide their affairs in the future. Control should not be confused with care and understanding.

About the need to educate inner freedom says in the book "lazy mom" Anna Bykova. A child who has not received a positive experience of independence as a child, turns out to be unable to make the right decision in adulthood, to take responsibility. Accustomed to a son or daughter from a young age to be responsible for their actions, my mother also becomes happier: she will no longer have to constantly monitor every step of her baby.

Parental control

How many people, becoming adults, dream of getting rid of the dictatorship of their parents! And all this is due to a wrong approach to the upbringing process. How to teach a child to be free in his choice? Above all, give up thinking of constantly controlling it. Your anxiety should not prevent him from acquiring the necessary life skills. Parental control in most cases becomes an annoying factor that does not allow the individual to grow and fully move forward.

In order to minimize the manifestation of one's own habit of controlling the child's actions, start giving him such instructions with which he can surely cope. The kid should feel the responsibility assigned to him, understand that he is trusted. The refusal of manipulation contributes to the formation of sincere and honest relations.

What prevents to become a "lazy mother"

In most cases, women are convinced that their direct duty is to devote all their time to the child. Many do not even think about paying attention to themselves and their spouse. This behavior can not be called reasonable. As a result, it harms all family members and the baby, too. A woman must have her own business, hobbies, a favorite occupation. After all, thanks to self-realization, she has the opportunity not to focus only on duties, but to manifest herself as a person. That's what the concept of "lazy mother" includes. Anna Bykova stresses the need for release from the internal cargo and a sense of guilt for the child that you do not have time to do something for him today. Do not be perfectionist!

As you know, each of us should have his own personal space. Anna Bykova in her book insists that after the birth of the baby you must continue to live your own life.

The balance between "can" and "can not"

How to teach a child to obey you? There is some trick here. Having understood it, you will cease to be sad and endlessly complain about life. It is important to maintain an internal balance between prohibitions and joys. For example, if you do not allow something to the child, then this should sound reasoned. Do not put too many bans, otherwise the kid will stop taking them seriously. As compensation, always find an excuse to please the child.

Raising Confidence

Do you know a lot of people who really value themselves as a person? Anna Bykova in her book notes the need to educate a child a sense of self-sufficiency from a small age. This means that it is necessary to emphasize its strengths, in every way to praise and encourage in difficult situations. When he needs to make a choice, do not decide for the baby, let me take my own step. Education of self-confidence begins with the conscious behavior of the parents themselves.

This is how Anna Bykova speaks about the discovery of new opportunities and significant prospects. "An independent child, or How to become a" lazy mom "" - this is a book that is worth reading to every mom.