Relations, Marriage
The daughter in law - who is this? To be afraid or be friends?
Previously, even in Russia, a guy in his wife took himself a girl from another village or settlement. For him and his relatives, she was considered as an alien, in other words, from where she came from. Hence the term "daughter-in-law" came into being, which meant "a stranger in a new home and family."
Relation degree
Another daughter
Of course, in most families a new woman is taken with caution, as if looking closely at her, especially the newly-made mother-in-law. For the new relatives, the daughter-in-law is who it is, if not a stranger with its past and with its worldview? But wise parents, seeing that young people love and care for each other, get used to a new member of the family, and even consider the son's wife their second daughter.
I or she!
Most often the newlyweds come to live in the husband's family. Quite a common situation, when my mother-in-law tries to put the young woman in her place and with her whole appearance shows that she is the only woman in the house herself. In such a family there is a contradiction: who is more important - the mother-in-law or daughter-in-law? Who can resolve this contradiction, if not themselves.
Start small
To leave from the first step of the pedestal is necessary competently. To make a course with a knight and establish relations with the son's wife, so much so that to become her friend and mentor. You can start, for example, by writing congratulations to your daughter-in-law on some significant holiday. If she is an intelligent girl, she will appreciate such an act. We can assume that the first step is made.
Perhaps the girl is stubborn in something and does not want to give up the primacy of her husband's mother, but this can be attributed to the manifestations of youth. In this case, mother-in-law can only wish patience and further efforts. After all, the young wife does not really want to destroy her own happiness and see how her new husband suffers. Most likely, the steps of mother-in-law will have their effect.
A few more words ...
Let our small parting words become for you a push in establishing relations with the son's wife, then there will be no question: "daughter-in-law - who is this, the enemy or a new daughter?".
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