"Sit on the neck" - how to understand? History and example of use

Often one can meet such a turn: "He / she is sitting with his parents around his neck". And when it is not about small children, the speakers know exactly what is meant. "Sitting around your neck" means being dependent and dependent on someone. Most often they say that when a person lives at someone's expense, for example, parents, brothers or sisters. Let's talk about this in more detail, as well as highlight the dark place from which this proverb went.

People and horses

It is assumed that the phraseology comes from a dictionary of riders. They say so, when they completely subordinated the horse to their will. The logical version. After all, the expression "sitting around your neck" means that a young healthy person (the sex does not matter) is in the care of parents, not because he has any reasons for this, but because it is so convenient for him to live. He also subjected the parents to his will, like a horse rider.

But do not think that the "rider" in this case is to blame. On the contrary, it is probably the parents who are to blame, because they did not instill in the child love for work and did not teach to honor and respect other people's efforts. Therefore, father and mother pay for their mistakes.

If they decided to sit on the neck sick and crippled, then in this society does not find anything reprehensible. The "special people" have objective reasons why they can not work on a par with everyone. The paradox of human nature is that the sick and the maimed just want to work, because they see in this the realization of their own personality, and the healthy ones do not, because labor is so tedious, and in the world there are so many more interesting things.

This is an eternal story. Some jump from the windows of unrequited love, thus they refuse to live, while others painfully cling to life, expecting donor organs from those who have taken scores with life in some way that did not damage the innards.

Psychological treatment of phraseology

You can look at the problem from the other side. And what if the phraseology "sitting on the neck" has psychological depth? Little children like to ride on the back of the pope. Thus, a son or daughter plays the role of a rider, and dad is the role of a horse. And mind you, only small children go for a ride on their parents, if an adult decided to climb up an elderly father, then everyone who saw this picture would turn a finger at his temple.

The same happens when an adult full-fledged person lives at the expense of his parents. It seems to degenerate to a childish state. In other words, the sentence fixes also the extreme infantilism of the son (or daughter), who is not ashamed to lead an idle life.