How to communicate with children correctly

Psychologists and educators have long noticed that more children are becoming Uncontrollable. They not only do not obey and play pranks, but simply do not hear what adults say to them. And the fault in this lies first of all on the parents themselves. Therefore, all daddies and mothers should know how to communicate with children.

Most parents make mistakes in communicating with the child for several reasons:

1. They believe that they should educate him, and discipline first. Therefore, they read many notations and moralizations, but simply they do not have time to talk heart to heart.

2. By abusing the child, they recoup on him for their failures and troubles in life.

3. Parents consider that since they were brought up so themselves, then it is necessary to behave with the child. After all, no one told them how to communicate with children correctly.

The consequences of this communication often do not like children, but also the parents themselves. Over time, the child simply ceases to notice them, completely not listening to what they say. In adolescence, these children are rude to adults, behave aggressively. This would not have happened if all parents knew how to communicate correctly with the child.

Psychologists believe that for this they need to comply with several rules.

Rule one: you can never ridicule or humiliate a child. The vulnerable child's psyche takes all the words of Mom and Dad, even spoken in jest or in a fit of anger, for truth. If parents often repeat to their child that he is bad, untidy, fat or clumsy, this will not only lead to low self-esteem in him, but also cause the child to simply stop listening to them.

Rule two: never compare your child with others and do not say that a neighbor's boy is better than him. A child needs to know that he is loved the way he is, and not because he is good or beautiful. More often repeat to the kid, as you like it or him and as he is necessary to you.

Rule three: if a child makes a mistake or does something wrong, never discuss him, but only his action. And in no case can we generalize: "you're always late", "you've done everything wrong again," "all because of you." Such phrases, abandoned by parents in a temper, can completely violate their mutual understanding with the child. Therefore, knowing how to communicate with children will help to avoid many problems.

Rule four: do not ask the child for what he can not do because of his age, lack of knowledge or experience. After all, children know only what they have been taught by adults, and they can not be scolded for inability, otherwise they will simply avoid such work, and then parents.

Rule five: the child is the same person as you. He needs a normal human communication. Never be afraid to tell him directly that something is bothering you, something is hurting or you are dissatisfied with something. Always, if you were wrong, you need to ask the child for forgiveness. Do not worry that he will not understand you, on the contrary: he will trust you more.

Psychologists, explaining to parents how to communicate with children, emphasize that the child's psyche is very vulnerable, so you need to closely monitor your words. Often an accidentally thrown score or accusation severely offends children. Psychologists also believe that it is impossible to talk very much when communicating with a child. Adults are used to Conversations use many comparisons, epithets and hints. But children, especially small children, take these words for truth.

I want to believe that soon each family will be able to say: "We learn to communicate with the child correctly." In this case, there will be less conflicts, unhappy children and suicides among adolescents. Parents, learn to listen to your child, and then he will hear you!