Conflict resolution

In most conflicts, it is important to find a way to resolve them. This statement seems obvious, but many people suppress their anger or simply "get along". They think that resolving conflicts is a way of creating others, and therefore they simply remain silent if they are dissatisfied with something. Unfortunately, this is an unhealthy long-term strategy. On the one hand, an unresolved conflict can lead to discontent and additional conflicts in the relationship. On the other hand, more importantly, the ongoing conflict situation can indeed have a negative impact on human health.

Unfortunately, conflict resolution is sometimes very difficult. Inadequate attempts can really exacerbate the situation.

To avoid this, you need to know the main ways to resolve conflicts.

Get in touch with your feelings

An important component that helps to resolve conflict situations is the realization of one's feelings and sensations. It may seem that your feelings should be obvious to you, but this is not always the case. Sometimes we feel anger or resentment, but we do not know why. In other cases, we believe that another person does not do what he "should", but we do not know what exactly we want from him. Therefore, it can be effective to get in touch with your own feelings, thoughts and expectations.

Hone your listening skills

When it comes to effectiveness in conflict resolution, it is important to listen carefully to another person. To know how much we are able to do this is just as useful as understanding our feelings and sensations. It is important to understand the conflict from the point of view of another person, not just our own, if we want to come to a mutual agreement. In fact, a simple understanding of what you hear and understand - this is the way to the correct solution of the problem of "early resolution of conflicts."

Unfortunately, active listening is a skill that not everyone owns. The common misconception is that many people think that they are listening, but in fact they formulate the following answer in their heads, the thoughts about themselves are rampant, about how another person is not right, etc.

The practice of assertive communication

Everyone knows that incorrect, rude statements can throw fuel on the fire and aggravate the conflict. It is important to be able to express what is needed, clearly and aggressively, but not aggressively, so as not to force another person to defend. One of the effective strategies for resolving the conflict in this regard is using the self-hypnosis strategy "I feel ..." (confident, calm, etc.)).

Search for a solution

As soon as you understand the point of view of another person, and he understands yours, it is time to find ways to resolve conflicts that will suit both sides. Sometimes it is quite easy to understand the point of view of the interlocutor. In this case, simple apologies can work wonders, and open discussion - bring people together. In cases where there is a conflict on a matter in which there are differences, several options are possible: you can disagree with each other, but you can find a compromise or a middle ground. Or if you feel more confident in the matter and can achieve it, but you need to understand that next time you will have to give in to you.

Impossibility of permission

If the conflict lasts too long, sometimes it is desirable to stop any relationship with the opponent for a certain period of time or for good. In cases of abuse, for example, the threat of physical violence - personal safety must be a priority. When dealing with a family member, then, by adding some restrictions, you can achieve peaceful coexistence. In friendly relations (in the case when conflict resolution is impossible), it is reasonable to stop communication. In any case, only you can decide whether relations can be improved or still have to stop.