Sunday Dad

Divorce is a serious test not only for adults, but also for their children, who are deprived of one of their parents, most often their father. Surviving such a child is not easy: there was a family, there was a father and a mother who loved him, and suddenly the whole world is collapsing ... The father disappears from his life. Very often - forever. And it is very difficult for a small person to realize that they have forgotten him, abandoned him, stopped loving him. This gives rise to a feeling of guilt in the child : if he is no longer loved, then he is guilty of something in front of his father. But this is only one problem, caused by the loss of his father. Family psychologists note that if a boy grows without a father, he loses the standard of male behavior and learns the female type of response to various life situations. If there is a girl left without a father, she is deprived of the opportunity to understand the male psychology and may fear the men in the future. Therefore, if after a divorce the father expresses a desire to communicate with his child (even as a "Sunday dad"), a woman should not resist this. Whatever the relationship between the former spouses, "Sunday's Pope" in any case is better than the complete absence of the father.

Segregation of duties

If the agreement is reached, and the "Sunday Pope" regularly communicates with his child, it is important to properly distribute the duties between the former spouses. Otherwise, another problem may arise: jealousy on the part of the mother. After all, "Sunday Dad", coming on weekends, bringing gifts and entertaining his baby, becomes a source of joy, synonymous with the holiday, while the mother associates the child with gray routine, duties and even punishments. It is on the share of the mother that all the basic responsibilities for raising a child fall out, while the pope only entertains his child. If a man feels guilty before a child, he especially tries to make it up, satisfying all the whims and desires of his baby: toys, sweets, entertainment - everything goes on. It is clear that the child is especially waiting for his father's visits, he is happy with him, at the same time, the mother, who is constantly with the child, does not cause such strong emotions. So that there are no situations when the "Sunday dad" plays the role of a magician, and the mother is a strict teacher, it is important to distribute responsibilities for the upbringing of the child. This will enable the father to become not only a source of joy, but also gain credibility from his child. For example, a mother can be responsible for the nutrition, health and clothing of the child, and the father - checks the diary and homework, finds tutors and leads in the circles and sports sections. In addition, the father can communicate with the child not only on weekends: on the phone you can put the child to sleep, calm him, tell tales, be interested in his deeds and successes. With this division of responsibilities, "Sunday Pope" expands his powers, becomes closer to his child and gives his mother the opportunity to pay attention not only to her baby, but herself.