Narcissus people: how to distinguish, by what criteria? Narcissism is a disease or result of education?

In ancient Greek mythology, there is a small myth about the narcissistic son of the river God Narcissa, who in every possible way tried to reject such a beautiful feeling as love. The goddess of love found out about this and decided to punish him. Once Narcissus saw his reflection in the river and really fell in love, because of this he could not for one second leave his own reflection, after which he died a terrible death from hunger.

Of course, this story is just a myth, but, unfortunately, in the modern world, there are more and more such people who are not ready to perceive others as they are. For them, there is only a solid "I", which no one simply so failed to break. A similar problem for the modern person is a generally accepted norm, while in psychiatry a patient with such a character warehouse is boldly credited with the diagnosis of "narcissistic inclinations". Let's talk about what are the causes of narcissism, and also answer some of the most important questions about this deviation.

1. Is narcissism really a disease?
2. Is a person a daffodil because of education?
3. What kind of treatment for patients with a diagnosis of "narcissism" is recommended by qualified psychiatrists?

A person with narcissistic inclinations

To begin with, we suggest that you decide on the very concept of narcissism. People-daffodils, as a rule, are incorrigible selfish, egoistic and obsessed with themselves and their problems. They mostly underestimate the surrounding people and demand from them a constant admiration for their life manifestations. Prikaznoy tone and high-raised head for them are the main business card, although more often they are in fact really unhappy. Self-confidence is only hypertrophied self-esteem. After all, in fact, each of us has a narcissus, only someone can skillfully turn it on and off, and somebody still equates himself with God. In addition, people-daffodils do not stand up to criticism in their address, while they are ready to express their discontent for hours.

Narcissism as a disease

People with narcissistic inclinations are in fact carriers of a psychological illness that modifies their personal qualities. Such individuals constantly strive for the ideal, correcting the errors of their bodies with the help of various methods. Therefore, as a consequence, they can become "owners" of anorexia, depression and even drug addiction. People-daffodils have one unique feature - their anterior cerebral gyrus is too active, therefore they can not look at their behavior from outside and objectively evaluate others. Such people are not able to soberly assess their behavior, and therefore believe that they behave within the norm.

Symptoms of narcissism

In order to help a person with psychological abnormalities, first of all it is necessary to consider the signs of narcissism. We will talk about them further.

A person feels emptied and unwanted

Many people-narcissuses describe this state as a large black hole inside themselves, which constantly requires filling. Because of this, it is likely that sooner or later they can resort to alcohol and drugs. The only thing that can truly help is the feeling of real victory. In order to feel the taste of victory, a person with deviations is ready for anything, even for the most disgusting acts.

Assessing others and comparing them with themselves

A narcissist (by nature) is used to evaluating other people and without fail to compare them with themselves, it is not important, this assessment will concern appearance or character. In the event that a person with disabilities does not feel the recognition and love from others around him, he begins to fall into a depressed state, which can lead to addiction to narcotic substances and alcohol.

Two sides of the medal

A person who has a narcissistic character is prone to stay in several states simultaneously. On the one hand, he is insanely beautiful, beautiful and unique, and on the other - clumsy and very unhappy. As a rule, the first state prevails during the general admiration and manifestation of immense love, and the second - during non-recognition and contempt. In fact, each of us can recall the presence of such sentiments, but there is a big difference between a narcissus and an ordinary person. First of all, this is because the former does not have a simple distinction between "good" and "bad", everything is either "terrible" or "great before losing consciousness".

Having become acquainted with the symptoms, it can be concluded that narcissism is a disease that can really threaten the further development of a person, while not allowing you to live peacefully and feel truly a person.

Narcissism and education

We all know that the child's personality is formed through parenting. Highly qualified psychologists from the first time can determine by an adult how he was brought up and how much he was paid attention in childhood. Narcissism and the love of parents are directly interrelated.

First, the attitude of the father and mother to the baby can become the driving factor that provoked the onset of the disease, and secondly, sometimes because of one incorrect phrase, the child begins to see and perceive the world differently. Narcissus people tend to evaluate and compare themselves with the people around him, and this is directly related to parenting. After all, once they tried to remind the kid that classmates at school read it better, and the guys from the gym faster run. Of course, what they wanted was better, they thought that thanks to the statements their child would become more self-sufficient and successful, and achieved the opposite result. You ask: "Why?" The answer is simple. After all, this problem consists in the fact that the father and mother did not give their son or daughter the chance to accept themselves as they are, did not give the opportunity to study their own characteristics and skills. Now the child who has been deprived of a personal "I" will spend his whole life looking at other people and comparing his successes with the successes of the majority, and since parents always reminded him that there are better people in the world, the preponderance will clearly not be in his direction.

The feelings most often experienced by a narcissist

There are several types of feelings that tend to feel a daffodil almost daily:

1. Feeling of shame. This category of people very often experiences shame, which skilfully conceals within themselves. Because of the terrible sensation of emptiness, uselessness, and inestimability, daffodils can fall not only into depression, but also feel a sense of shame because of themselves, so for many of them the hike to the therapist is almost unreal, because in the office the daffodil will have to face Shame.
2. Guilt. A woman, a male narcissist, they have been guilty all their lives before their parents, because they could not justify their hopes, in addition, if the achieved goal is not appreciated by others, the wine captures the narcissus completely. Very rarely, only when such a person really gets tired of self-blame, his claims are switched from personal reflection in the mirror to those around him.
3. Sense of anxiety. Such sensations accompany the narcissist almost constantly, it is directly related to the fact that he expects a failure or a situation that will be insoluble for him. The fear of stumbling on one's life path about the next step causes the narcissus to be in a state of eternal anxiety.

Helping a person with narcissistic abnormalities

If you find signs of narcissism in your loved one, you must necessarily help him. The task of such help is to encourage a person to acquire his own individual "I", having passed through anxiety, shame and a constant sense of guilt. All therapists believe that in such cases only long-term relationships with a loved one will help. It is believed that this mission is almost impossible, because you can use a support to pull a person out of depression and alcoholism, you can deprive him of feelings of shame, anxiety and guilt, but to make him fall in love - this is an unrealistic task. Therefore, the recovery and liberation of man from the pain of narcissism depends only on him. The main thing is to remember that a narcissist must necessarily pass through all stages of therapy: from "terrible" to "beautiful."

Be always healthy and careful when raising your children!