Mama's son: to recognize and escape

For a long time already for women, the existence of such a type of men as "mama's son" is not a surprise. And lately, individuals of the stronger sex, falling under this classification, is becoming more and more. Why this happens, no one can really explain, but the fact that his mother is to blame for the infantilism of his own son is an indisputable fact. Especially tender "copies" of boys are cultivated by mothers who do not have a husband. So they "shift" all their love and excessive care for the child.

These women rush with their offspring, like chicken and egg: Feed, water, rub the shirt, panties with socks to wash, sleep and put a lullaby to sing. And all this is mixed up with syusyukanem, despite the fact that the child had long ago emerged from the age of five and became quite mature, independent man. But is it really so independent if Mom everywhere and everywhere controls it? "Do not go there, so do not make friends, do not do this ..." It often happens that the mother decides where her son is to study and whom to marry. And whether to get married at all ...

Even if my mother's son thinks of having a family of her own, the parent will not give him any peace. Especially if he, in spite of her instructions, married not the girl she had chosen him. After all, how is it? She raised her boy, brought up, slept and cherished, did not sleep at night, and then came some kind of "wolf-tail" and took away the treasure. And what about a glass of water in old age? And begins a hidden (and sometimes open) war against the daughter-in-law, who does not wash the dishes so much, does not polish the shirt and, in general, does not like her son. Because only mom can really love. And she systematically begins to set up her overage baby against his wife.

A man, of course, can resist at first, but soon he suddenly discovers how right Mom was, and comparisons Own spouse with the parent will not take long to wait. A woman whose husband is a mama's son will have to either take a fist and become better than her mother-in-law (which, in principle, is impossible, from the spouse's point of view), or to file for divorce.

The second, alas, happens much more often, because what kind of sensible woman wants to patronize and spend her whole life nursing an adult peasant who can not even find food in the fridge, let alone help with the au pair?

Therefore, if you do not want to associate your life with a man for whom the word mother is the ultimate truth, you should learn to identify it before serious relationships are established. You can do this sometimes, sometimes - after a while, because now the infantile men are able to disguise themselves under reliable and confident ones. So, if your new friend is a mama's son, the signs will be as follows:

• He mentions his mommy (mother, mother, mother, etc.) with too much tenderness and with special tenderness and can take offense and even get angry at your innocentest question concerning his relationship with the parent.
• He regularly calls his mother and tells him where he is, with whom and when he will return home.
• He aspires to "show" you to his mother as soon as possible so that if he does not approve, do not spend his time on you anymore.
• He gets dressed and combs tastelessly just because his mother likes it so much.
• He cherishes some socks, scarves and sweaters with deer (and wears them, even if they have been preserved since school days), because my mother tied up or bought it.
• It is quite possible to put an ultimatum to the girl that she marries her only if she after the wedding will perform the same functions and in the same order as his beloved parent.
• He makes almost no effort to conquer you, because he is a priori confident that only a girl who will take care of him with the same zeal as mother is worthy of him. If you do not, then you will be a bad wife and therefore do not deserve to go to a restaurant (good boys have dinner at home), flowers (they are only given to my mother on March 8) and gifts (they are given only by mom, in the form of sweaters with deer ).