The first acquaintance of parents with the guy's parents

New meetings always make a person worry and worry, because you want to present yourself in a good light, like the interlocutor, interest and leave after the joint communication only positive impressions and emotions. Particularly pretty will make the parents' parents' parents' nervousness nervous. After all, how the dialogue between all participants of the meeting will pass depends on how the further relations will take shape. Perhaps in the future, a girl and a boy will create a family. Then avoid regular meetings between relatives will not work.

Perfect acquaintance

Such a meeting takes place only after the first acquaintance with the guy's parents took place, and the girl is familiar with the loved ones' relatives, knows what kind of people they are, what they do, what they love and what they like . So tell your mom and dad about them so that the right idea is formed. They should be aware of the main points. And at the same time think together, where better to go, how to behave, what to talk about. Do not be afraid to listen to the opinion of elders. After all, they wish you only the very best, they want their child to be happy, do not know sorrows.

Is the acquaintance of the guy's parents with the girl's parents planned? Do not be afraid, everything will go fine, if you plan the tactics of behavior in advance, think over your appearance. In general, consider even the slightest nuances.

Choice of attire and makeup

Regardless of where the parents first get to know their parents , do not wear short things: a skirt, a dress. Be natural, no pretentiousness. A mandatory condition is a minimum of makeup.

If you go to a restaurant or cafe, at a gala dinner or dinner, then the length of the outfit is up to the knees. If the acquaintance of the guy's parents with the girl and her relatives occurs in an informal atmosphere, then do not overdo it, be simpler. Of course, you must be beautiful, regardless of where the meeting is.

Tactics of behavior

Observe the rules of etiquette. During dinner, sit down at the place where you were offered to sit down. Call the parents of the guy by name and patronymic, thereby showing respect and attention to them. Do not need these "aunt Natasha" or "Uncle Peter." Such treatment is unacceptable. Also do not immediately contact: mom, dad. It is still unknown how your relationship with the guy will develop, whether it will come to the wedding, in general, no familiarity. Do not lie and do not exaggerate your dignity and merit, do not be false and deliberately ostentatious. Artificiality and deception will quickly unfold and produce a negative impression on the relatives of a loved one.

Advice

Behave yourself at ease, try not to show your excitement. If you can not not worry, then before going to your parents, drink valerian.

By the way, in order not to embarrass the parents of the guy, ask your mother not to take pictures of the times of your carefree childhood. For example, where are you posing, sitting on a pot, or lying naked on the couch, etc. Also, ask your relatives not to go into nostalgic memories related to your participation.

Topics for conversation

So, here it is, the long-awaited acquaintance with the parents of the guy! How to behave, what to say, so that the conversation was not boring and tense, but was held at the highest level?

Main topics and rules of conversation:

• Do not ask first questions; If you address your loved ones, avoid unnecessary questions that put you in an awkward position;
• Do not praise the interior and decoration of the apartment / house / villa, excessive flattery is inappropriate (provided that you understand the decor and arrangement of housing, you can specify something, offer);
• Obsession and excessive attention and care will negatively affect the general impression of you as a person;
• Mother of the guy smile first, make her a compliment, smile while it should be sincere and good-natured;

Themes for communication choose neutral, try to establish contact between your parents. Find common ground, even if your relatives are radically opposite both in their views and in their way of life. Let's say a dad with a guy's mom - from the village, ordinary people, and native girls - "cream of society", urban residents, so to speak, the intelligentsia. The common between them is zero zero point zero percent. But it is necessary to unite them somehow, to bring them closer together. What will help? Of course you are their children! Perhaps, parents will remember funny funny cases related to your upbringing or growing up, let them share their thoughts about your joint future or plans about grandchildren. Then you do not even notice how time flies by and does not feel tension and awkwardness.

Praise your family, tell me how wonderful they are, that you love and respect them. They will be doubly pleased that the child treats them like that and is proud of mom and dad.

This does not need to be done!

Here comes the day when the acquaintance with the guy's parents will take place. The tips that need to be adhered to to nullify all the unpleasant moments are presented below.

What not to do when meeting young:

• Do not quarrel and do not find out the relationship;
• Do not show excessive love for each other;
• Do not scold or criticize your loved one or your beloved;
• Do not point out the shortcomings of each other;
• You do not need to kiss or hug endlessly, parents understand that you are loved and loved;
• In any case do not be late for a meeting, it's indecent and will put you in an unattractive light! Punctuality - first of all, try to appear 10 minutes before the appointed time.

Gifts

Gifts - a guarantee that the parents' acquaintance with the guy's parents will take place on a good-natured and pleasant note. But there are rules that need to be adhered to by presenting a present:

• Flowers - a universal gift for both men and women, just keep in mind that the bouquets are different;
• Do not give expensive presents, so that parents do not feel uncomfortable;
• Be sure to give gifts to both parties (and his, and his mom and dad), this principle works flawlessly, as all relatives will rejoice that they have not been forgotten, that they paid attention to everyone.

After all, the most important is care, which manifests itself even in trinkets and trifles. Pleasure your parents, pleasant emotions at a meeting will create a welcoming atmosphere. Take with you a bottle of good wine, provided that all relatives drink alcoholic beverages. If the acquaintance takes place in an informal setting, on a picnic, then make a shish kebab, buy a quality beer, or you can and something stronger, then communication will be better.

Conclusion

Let the parents' acquaintance with the guy's parents become the starting point in your relationship, which will grow into a wedding, and then into a carefree family idyll! Do not be afraid that you will not be able to 100% like your mom and dad loved one. Do not despair, because all people are different, with their oddities and "cockroaches in my head." The most important thing is how you treat each other, your feelings, mutual love and trust. Parents, both girls and fiance, will understand that your couple is perfect, and what else is needed? To the children were happy. Or maybe the first meeting will mark the creation of a strong, large and friendly family, in which laughter, good nature, comfort and joy will always reign!