How to enjoy life: advice of a psychologist

You wearily lazy over the frowning autumn park, scolding yourself for not having properly arranged a conversation with the customer, did not sign a contract and do not see you a prize now. At home, you will be affected by the problems of family members, who always need something. The new neighbor turned out to be a very unpleasant and conflicting type, in addition to everything - problems with health, weight, sleep, etc. You look enviously at the carefree couple laughing on the bench and do not understand how to enjoy life in your situation. Believe me, it's not so bad! And the fact that you are reading this material, is already talking about the readiness for change.

Optimism is a must!

The most important organ in a person is his brain. The ability to think, give a correct assessment of events allows people to radically change their lives. Believe me, in order to catch the moments of happiness more often, special conditions and a lot of money are not needed. A billionaire on a luxury yacht can feel less satisfied than a poor cobbler who has just seen his newborn son. Happiness and satisfaction are minute states, but it is precisely from these moments that our life consists. Direct your thoughts along this path. Put the negative back in the box. Remember the crown phrase of Scarlett O'Hara: "I'll think about it tomorrow!"

Look at your situation and always say to yourself "but": a gloomy cold day, but the exhausting heat is over, you can warmly dress and walk, breathing fresh and damp air. Family problems? But you have a family and children, and someone has been dreaming about it all his life. Did not work out with the contract? This is a chance to think about new strategies and prospects. Live and enjoy this day, this moment, this weather and yourself! Literally from tomorrow, start living as if all your dreams have already begun to be performed! You will see what will happen soon.

You are the only (and) unique (the)

And this is the true truth! A lot of complexes and the belief in their own insolvency are formed in everyone in different ways: someone is inspired by parents, someone reaches for a respected friend and blames himself for failure, someone feels like a gray mouse against the backdrop of a bright beautiful girlfriend. Why should I love something? If you ask yourself this question sincerely, think: who will appreciate you, if you do not know your own merits? And how to enjoy life without self-esteem? If a person has too developed self-criticism, self-flagellation and underestimation, it is hard for him to be happy. There are no people in the world that nature would not reward with something that would distinguish them from others. And do not be afraid to reward yourself sometimes, loved one, with unscheduled rest or delicious dessert. Every day looking in the mirror, smile at yourself and say: "Live healthy! And this day is for me! "

Tell me who your friend is

Sometimes it is happy to live now and here the person is hampered by his surroundings. This does not mean that you need to leave your family or stop helping a sick comrade. The essence is different: evaluate your sobriety soberly. If you spend a lot of time in the company of whiners, who all talk is reduced to criticism, gossip and abuse of the imperfect world, it is unlikely that your perception will be different. Take for yourself a sample of a man who has everything to argue, who is always cheerful and happy with himself. Watch him, talk, find out his attitude to life, ask about his ability to overcome troubles. And the age of such a friend is completely unimportant - sometimes an old man, wise and experienced, sometimes becomes a measure of life values, and sometimes a very young and cheerful person.

You should always try to communicate with people who are equal in their level of moral values, degree of education, and a range of interests. Watch TV selectively, negate the negative completely. On this whole industry makes money - and you have nothing to do with it.

It is not customary for us to flee for advice to a personal psychologist, like the Americans. Good or bad is a separate issue, but the fact that one needs to learn in a comfortable world is a fact. Learn to be cheerful in people who call themselves happy.

Do you buy happiness for money?

How to enjoy life in poverty? Is happiness possible without money? Or happiness is not in money, but in their quantity? This question is discussed by everyone and everywhere. Everyone agrees in a single opinion: money is an opportunity to satisfy one's needs. The difference is that the needs of all are different. Some want to be rich to ensure their importance, gaining power, others need a freedom of action, movement. Here is the answer: money itself, in any form, does not mean anything, pleasure brings what you spend it on.

Envy - the enemy of happiness

To be able to enjoy one's life without comparing it to others and not envying anyone is not given to everyone. Envy kills friendship, love. This feeling destroys family ties, becomes the cause of enmity and crime. For yourself, envy is a bad mood, dissatisfaction and nerve illnesses. Completely get rid of this nasty feeling you can, if you learn:

A) to love yourself;

B) to love people;

C) find a balance between their needs and opportunities.

There are people who do not like to exhibit their failures for show. Behind every successful career, a happy family is a long and laborious work, and sometimes a great loss, which no one will want to wish for themselves. Realize this and try to understand what qualities helped the other to achieve what you would like. Do not waste energy on envy, tell yourself: "Just live and enjoy life." And remember: at this moment thousands of people dream about what you have! For example, at least the opportunity to see and read on the Internet.

What does it mean to love people?

It means accepting them as they are. Eternally a dissatisfied and grouchy neighbor, perhaps, became such from loneliness, and maybe childhood did not work out. Not everyone in the world is kind and fluffy. The world is generally imperfect. Loving life and not trying to educate everyone in their own way does not mean to please everyone. Some individuals are not subject to education in adulthood, and neither your kindness nor their pity will re-educate them. Build your existence so that with those you dislike, the paths intersect as little as possible. Live healthy! Do not waste time fighting! The best means to win the conflict is to get rid of it.

Expectations and Reality

Do not expect too much from life, then there will be less disappointments, and every achievement will please more. This does not mean that you do not need to plan anything and set goals. Simply goals must be real. Psychologists advise to apply such tactics. First, learn to live now in harmony with yourself and determine one step in your development (career, relationships) that you can practically implement. After that, raise the bar higher and higher. Never stop on what has been achieved and praise yourself for every success.

Magic words of gratitude

Take for granted mentally and aloud to thank the Universe for every day of your life, for all that you have. Thank you, it seems, not for what? Not true! You have a life, a roof over your head, water, food, sight. So every day, be grateful for this to God (the universe, fate, in whom you believe). How it works? Our thought is material. That's for sure! Evil attracts evil, curses return as a boomerang, gratitude is perceived by the universe and returns with the addition. Sincerely thank the people who helped you.

Do good.

No matter how bad you are at the moment, always remember that there is someone who is even worse. Help to rejoice each day to someone else. You do not need to have a lot of money, just desire. Sometimes a person who is in trouble needs a friendly participation. Just do not demand praise and show off your good deeds at every opportunity. Sincere goodness should be quiet, and your life and without embellishment will be filled with inner light and joy.

This hateful work

What does it mean to enjoy life? Enjoy every day you have lived! Wake up with the expectation of a new one and fall asleep in satisfaction from past events. And here is the hitch: when a person does hate work, he does not want to wake up in the morning, and sleep at night does not give restless thoughts. It is good for someone who has the opportunity to earn with pleasure. And if a well-paid position leads to fits and neuroses? There is always a way out.

1. Change your job, profession, quit your position.

2. Analyze what is more important for you at the moment: a healthy nervous system or still the income that gives you the opportunity to support your family? In this case, be grateful that you have such a job.

3. Try to turn a favorite hobby into a subject of income - this has worked for many people. And there are earnings, and everyday pleasure.

Be persistent

Very often the stereotypes imposed on us by the family, society, environment, penetrate so deep into our consciousness and take root there, that we are afraid to be happy if we need to retreat from them. In what institution to enter, with whom to create a family, how to communicate with friends, how to spend a day off - it's up to you. And if you like to bake pies, then do not try to convince yourself that you need a doctor's career for some sciences in order to continue the family tradition. As a result, you and others will be happy, because it's a pleasure to communicate with a person who knows how to enjoy life. Do not be afraid of drastic changes. If this thought is ripe, act.

In a healthy body healthy mind

Among people who support a healthy lifestyle and a full-fledged diet regime, there are very few gloomy pessimists. Doing sports, yoga, dancing improves the level of satisfaction. In addition, collective classes allow you to find friends among like-minded people. Spend more time on nature. Try to begin by simply walking at least part of the way from work to home, preferably through a park or park. Man always finds time for what he really wants. Sometimes you, yourself, need to be lifted and pushed out into the light.

People who have health problems can not enjoy life. The constant dissatisfaction with their place in society leads to problems with this important component. Here's a vicious circle turns out. To break it can only personal desire to be healthy and happy.

The same goes for the power system. No debilitating diet brought joy to anyone. Constantly hungry eyes can not look happy. Food brings joy when it is tasty, beautiful and useful. Individual needs and sense of proportion are important in everything.

Life is Beautiful! Love her, yourself and your loved ones! And be happy!