How best to sleep spouses - on the same bed or separately?

Nowadays the topic of whether you and your partner should sleep together is hotly debated, or should everyone count the sheep separately? Arguments in favor of both options are many, which makes it difficult to make such an important decision. Some have long been determined how to sleep better, but many still think about it. Discussing this topic, consider all the pros and cons. Let's start with what awaits the spouses who have chosen separate bedrooms.

Pets

If your puppy is your second half, he needs a place to sleep comfortably! Especially if he was with you before the man appeared. It's not fair to drive your furry friend to the floor, because he has the same rights as your husband, especially since he appeared in the house first.

What further exacerbates the situation is the size. No matter how you like, but the cute retriever does not occupy the same space as the Yorkshire Terrier, it's simply impossible. If your man does not move to give way to a fluffy baby, and you do not want to give the puppy (or cat) a permanent place on the floor, you have to choose. Of course, it's nice to snuggle up to your furry friend, and to your partner. But in order to avoid quarrels it is better to sleep separately, and thus you will not worry about problems with a dream.

Owl against the Lark

You like not to sleep all night, and he counts the sheep until 10 o'clock in the evening, then leaves you to sleep, and he is engaged in usual morning worries. Both sides do not win, and this is a pretty tough compromise if you wake up with him. In addition, as soon as you open your eyes, even the slightest amount of light will not let you continue to sleep. But with your own space, you set the time for sleep. And all - there is no reason to argue. Think about it, you can even stay in your comfortable bed until 9am without any interference! This is a great idea.

Resting room

Although we try not to quarrel before going to sleep, it still happens. And, frankly, it is not always possible to resolve each disagreement before the light goes out. If you sleep in separate beds, then get some space and time to cool down after a fight. Then you can distract your mind from the battlefield, since you will not be face to face with the enemy. This means that you will wake up with a clearer head and less offended.

Possibility to miss

One particular moment of living together is that you spend a lot of time together, you do not even have time to get bored one after another. The time spent together, will not always bring pleasure, you can start to get bored. And having your own bedroom, you will get free space, the opportunity to get bored with a partner. Conversations and joint pastime will now be more desired, because you are happy to be in each other's company. Apparently, 30-40 percent of couples agree with this circumstance. Think about it!

Remote control

Many of us today have a TV in the bedroom. But the problem is that each of the partners wants to watch different channels. If he is delighted with the films with Schwarzenegger, and you love a good melodrama, then this is already problematic. Your own room also means having a separate TV. You can easily watch "Sex and the City" or "Desperate Housewives" without sighs, which are heard from the other side of the bed.

Closed Doors Policy

Do you know the situation when your boss closes the door of his office when he does not want to be disturbed? It's something like that. The common bedroom is the so-called communal space. That is, it's not just your room. This is not your safe haven, because hubby can be present here at any time with the same claim to the room as you. The presence of your own bedroom is the so-called closed door policy. No one comes to you without a knock, including the love of your whole life.

And what awaits those who want to sleep in the same bed?

Creating the basis for future love relationships

Whatever you do, the children always look at you and repeat everything for you. If the parents sleep in separate beds, the kids can begin to worry. In their opinion, something is not so in the relations of the parents. Therefore, if you and your husband choose individual beds, make sure that the children understand why you have your own room. This is a conversation that can cause some awkwardness, tension. But also think that if you and your spouse want to play pranks, then do not forget to close the door, because children can witness this spectacle.

Transmission of energy

You do not need to talk to feel connected to your spouse. When you sleep nearby, you feel comfortable. This is the person you chose to live with him for the rest of your life. For you, sharing a bed is a matter of course. And the warmth that the spouse gives, as if proving to you that he chose you too for this purpose. This is a safe place where you go every evening, knowing that there is always someone nearby who you love so much, and he also feels this energy.

Problem solving

Relationships can seem wonderful and beautiful, but is it always so? Does it happen that a husband experiences resentment, because he feels that you never have time for him? This situation will only worsen if you sleep separately. When you sleep together, you can talk, discuss problems, and not hide from them in your own bed. If you feel that the husband is moving away from you, then the common bed is just the place where you can fix it all.

External comfort

You do not know when bloodthirsty monsters are ready to emerge from under the bed or when a ruthless robber gets to your cozy nest. And you are always the first to panic, start screaming or inventing non-existent ghosts when something goes wrong. A man in such a situation is not lost, he is ready for anything, for any sacrifices, while you hide under blankets (we all know from childhood that blankets protect against all troubles and evil monsters). Whether there will be a traditional baseball bat, or something more creative, as a weapon, men are always more resourceful and smart when it comes to protecting their relatives.

Do not confuse time and work together

We can not always spend enough time with the spouse because of work and other routine. You and your husband can watch the movie on the couch or have dinner together, but SMS messages or work calls distract us from each other, we pay more attention to phones than to loved ones. If you sleep separately, this only aggravates the situation, and if together, the phone that requires attention is usually on charge, and you have a wonderful time together. Remember: at night you only need a partner, not a phone!

Partner is the best adviser

Sometimes the best advice comes from the mouth of your second half. If you had a hard day or problems with the boss, the husband can tell you how to deal with it. Or when you end up trying to understand why men are so obsessed with a thermostat, he can also tell you about it. And this happens in both directions.

Sleep together or separately?

Each relationship has its own dynamics, and what works for one pair may not be entirely acceptable for another. One person needs a separate TV and free space, while others need communication and a warm partner. When you choose your spouse, you are ready to make any sacrifices. And this implies concessions and compromises.