Good reasons for weddings, divorces and refusals

Divorces, like weddings, are always different. Both the married and the parting have good reasons to do just that, and not otherwise. It is commonly believed that people create a family for love, only because everyone understands the complex of sensations under this feeling. Passion, embracing at times two unfamiliar people, seems to be quite a serious reason to tie the knot of Hymen, and when it passes, it often turns out that the chosen one (or the one chosen) has flaws, and even the vices with which one must either accept, or ... Human experience Suggests that the adult personality is almost impossible to remake.

And yet, if the creation of a family was dominated by a dispassionate mind, then weddings would occur much less often. And divorces, probably, too. Although who knows ...

What is the reason for the wedding to be valid

In fact, most marriages are concluded by calculation with at least one of the parties. Not every passionate love ends with a wedding, for it you need a good reason. What is this and how to understand this, in general, the legal term? For example, it can be, pregnancy, especially in the case when the future child is desired for both men and women. Before such an argument all possible problems, conflicts or dissimilarities of characters recede. What will happen next is unknown, but so far everything is clear: there will be a child, but he needs a father. At least, so men consider decent.

Calculation and love

To conclude a marriage, there are other good reasons. This, unfortunately, is also a material interest, a desire to settle down in life in such a way as to obtain the greatest comfort at the lowest cost. Not always this approach leads to happiness, but sometimes it brings satisfaction. Money can decorate life a little.

And, of course, the best option is when future spouses have a set of physical attraction and respect for each other and are able to become real friends. This is love.

And still…

No matter how optimistic the newlyweds are, the inexorable statistics in a rather crude form reminds that couples often leave (up to 70 cases out of a hundred). This is regulated by article 34 of the Marriage and Family Code, or more precisely, its second part, according to which the declaration of the wife or husband is sufficient to initiate the process of divorce. It is quite clear that, without good reason, a normal person will not do anything like this, and if he has written a statement, it is no accident. It hurts. Again, there is some reason for this act. They really are not that many.

Good reasons for divorce

There are ten of them, as commandments. People are divorced if:

1. One of the spouses does not want or can not become a father (or, respectively, a mother).
2. The husband or wife committed (or regularly commits) treason. It happens that enough and suspicion, which causes jealousy.
3. One of the spouses is a drug addict or an alcoholic. In recent years, another misfortune has been added - gambling.
4. There are problems of a material nature, the inability (most often the husband) to provide a family or a lack of desire to work.
5. Spouses live with the parents of one of them (in case they are hostile to the second) in combination with the inability to live separately.
6. There is a manifestation of violence. It can be physical (beating) or moral (constant mockery and humiliation, often manifested in public).
7. What is called "stop loving". Usually this situation arises because of insufficient awareness of the shortcomings of the spouse and unexpected detection of them ("So here you are, it's what!").
8. There is constant abuse, quarrels and squabbles. Such a very few people can withstand.
9. It happens that it is simply boring with a person, especially if it suddenly turns out that he is stupid, but cleverly, meaningfully keeping quiet, skillfully pretended to the wedding.
10. Suddenly, a new passion rushed in, or wakened old. In general, the love that inadvertently appeared.

What prevents the divorce

It happens that marriage from the outside seems doomed. Spouses swear, fight, get in touch, and still do a lot of things described above. And still they do not get divorced. Hence, for the preservation of the family they have good reasons, which are unknown to those around them. They are different, but as a rule, any of them fits into one of the most common six schemes:

1. Housing problems. Sometimes there is an apartment, but such that it is almost impossible to exchange it, but there is no money for surcharge and is not expected.
2. Habit. This thing is stronger than love. Men are especially inclined to this, they get used to that, coming from work, they get dinner, washed things. The apartment is cleaned, and if the behavior is satisfactory, then sex at night will break off, free and safe.
3. For a woman, marriage serves as a status attribute. It is believed that if she is not married, then, and do not need anyone.
4. Money again. If they are from one of the spouses, they often play the role of centripetal force.
5. "So the doubt makes us cowards ..." - the usual fear of the unknown keeps many in the shameful, but well-known circle of everyday life. Again, and where is the guarantee that the new spouse will be better? And if on the contrary?
6. Fear of loneliness.

Children

This factor stands apart, any other weighty reasons are "nervously smoking on the sidelines" compared to such a seemingly small problem. It happens that it is the child who ultimately makes his parents reconcile, which seemed completely unsuitable to each other. Moreover, the love that the heir feels for both the pope and his mother, "peacefully forces them to peace," and even to something more.

If this does not happen, the divorce is inevitable. Unhealthy atmosphere, scandals, screaming, fights, scenes of jealousy in the family is more dangerous for the child's psyche than the mere absence of one of the parents. What other good reasons are needed?