What does the phrase "Having - do not appreciate, but lose - cry"?

Very often in speech there is such a winged expression: "Having - not appreciated, but lost, we cry." Many even believe that this is a Russian folk saying. However, this is not entirely true. After all, the phrase "Having - we do not appreciate, but lost, weep" is the author who gave her life.

Who invented these winged words

Some people believe that he came up with the famous expression "Having - we do not appreciate, but lost - weep" by a contemporary author, a poet who asked to remain anonymous. Actually, this is facilitated by the fact that a lot of amateurs pampered with versification introduce these words into their works without reference to the real author. Thus, they mislead the reader, who ascribes this wise thought to that very poet, whom he first encountered with her.

However, at first the phrase "Having - not appreciated, but lost, weeping" was used by playwright-vaudeville S. Solovyov in 1844. True, she sounded a little different: "What we have, do not store, lost, weep" and figured as the name of one sensational in those years of the performance.

Who helped these words get famous

Later, a decade later, as early as 1854, this expression was used in the collection Fruits of Meditation by Kozma Prutkov. It should be clarified that in fact this author as such did not exist. "Kozma Prutkov" was a pseudonym for the brothers Zhemchuzhnikov Alexei, Alexander and Vladimir, as well as the poet Alexei Tolstoy. Therefore, many are mistaken, attributing to them the words "Having - do not appreciate, but lost - crying".

Who said this phrase first, we now know - Soloviev in his vaudeville. But she became famous because of the co-authors of Fruits of Meditation. So we can assume that there are several "parents" in this wisdom.

The meaning of the words "Having - we do not appreciate, but lost, we cry"

This phrase has a deep meaning. The words themselves can be attributed to either side of human life. And the main thing is that people do not know how to appreciate their present, they always want more, because of what they swear by what they own.

Speaking of what the proverb means, one can recall such a caricature. A man complains that he has unfashionable sneakers. And a person who does not have legs at all moves by on a wheelchair. That is, having legs, few people think about what this great happiness. But having lost them, the disabled person fully understands how great it was to live, walk, run, even in unfashionable shoes.

Having become rich, a person often remembers hungry student years with reverence. Yes, once it was difficult for him, he even, perhaps, considered himself a martyr, he wanted more. But, having received everything that was dreamed of, for some reason a successful businessman is sad and crying about those years when there was not enough bread, but there was friendship, loyalty, love, youth, health.

Love while you are loved!

This phrase is applicable to human relations. Children often argue with their parents, do not listen to their instructions, offend them with their rude words. Many consider themselves deeply unhappy due to the fact that they, in their opinion, got not understanding their "ancestors". Growing up, children understand that there is no one closer to their parents in the whole world. Only by that time the mother and father were already becoming old, sick, exhausted because of the turmoil in the families, the initiators of which were the children themselves.

And sometimes feel how difficult it is without a mother or father, how strong their devotion and love, is already in the youth or even childhood. And then the adolescents will curse themselves a thousand times for not protecting those relationships that were given to them by nature, that they did not appreciate the happiness that they had gained.

How many calls to take care of our loved ones we hear from grown-up daughters and sons! We hear, but always take to heart. Parental loyalty is considered by many to be compulsory, taken for granted, not appreciated.

Not renounce loving!

Spouses, long accustomed to each other, cease to enjoy their family relationships. How much on this topic is written stupid anecdotes! Husbands of their wives are called cobra and snakes, and those in return their second halves are awarded no less vivid epithets, calling them goats, sheep and other words. The conversation is about the most ordinary married couples, in which there are no special problems - only the fading of passion. And it seems that separation should make them both happier, but - no. It is here that the former lovers understand that losing a spouse is equivalent to spiritual death.

The same goes for friends and lovers who think that everything that is happening now is not serious, not so valuable. Therefore, close friends often have quarrels and misunderstandings. And only after the break, people begin to understand how important the former ties were to them. But, unfortunately, there is not always an opportunity to restore the lost relationship.

With the easy hands of poets

Poems have this feature - figuratively and briefly state the essence of thinking about life. Therefore, often in two lines contain very capacious thoughts and conclusions, to which comes the thinking poet. So there are modern sayings about life, which are part of our speech.

"You can not escape from yourself, no matter how fast you run!"; "It's not a sin to laugh at what seems ridiculous!"; "To be ashamed of a fool, to joke over a fool and to argue with a woman is the same as drawing water with a sieve. God save us from these three! "

Often proverbs and proverbs become lines from fables. They, being the morality of this short work, reveal many aspects of human passions, shortcomings, mistakes. In this regard, the fabulist Krylov, probably, belongs to the palm of primacy.