Topical questions about the relationship: why a lover or lover? Is this correct, or not? Why do people change?

"Lover" is a word that meets too often to hear about it for the first time. However, in our time it is perceived somewhat differently than before. After all, not so long ago it had a completely different meaning.

Origin of the word

In fiction, a "lover" is a word that writers and poets called people with high and warm feelings towards someone. So, for example, Pushkin in "The Queen of Spades" wrote such lines: "... I implore you with the feelings of a spouse, mistress, mother - to all that is a saint in life ...". It is worth paying attention to the sequence. In general, this writer often liked to use words such as "lovers" and "mistresses."

But, unfortunately, in our time they have lost the value that belonged to them initially. After all, few people think that these words are motivated by a very important verb - "love." This is their origin. But in our time they have acquired a negative color. People tend to vulgarize everything, and words are not an exception in this case.

Why do I need a lover?

This is an interesting question. Eternal, you can say. Firstly, I must say that he does not need a decent woman. To meet all the needs (both moral and physical) she has a husband. If she is looking for someone else - then it is called treason. And the woman herself becomes one of those persons whose names in a decent society are not spoken aloud.

Unfortunately, now many have husbands and lovers. It's terrible that a good half of people think this is normal. And those who adhere directly to the opposite point of view are called old-fashioned. But then the question arises. Since when has loyalty and devotion to the person become old-fashioned?

Just now people have lost all moral values. And they stopped respecting their partners. Appreciate the relationship, marriage. Many become spouses too early, not having thought their decision, not having lived together, not having met properly. And then, when time puts everything in its place, they say that it was a mistake. And, pogryaznuv in these problems, which themselves, and their partner created, begin to seek their "happiness."

On relations on the side

In general, many women, having done problems in their family, instead of solving them, believe that they need a lover. This is certainly wrong, but they do not think so. They are overtaken by a sexual panic - there is no more the desire to go to bed with your husband, there are questions: "This is old age? Asexuality? Frigidity?". No, it's just a lost interest in a partner. Usually this is observed in women who have married too early. And they start looking for someone who could satisfy them.

Another reason for the appearance of infidelity is the desire to test your partner. How much he cherishes these relations. And this is absolutely not the reason. And just stupid. A loving person would never have done this.

Most often, lovers start out of revenge. In a couple of discord, or one of the spouses has already found a man for comfort on the side - then the moment of reckoning comes. Well, in that case treason is also not considered the best option.

In general, no matter how weighty the reasons may seem, you do not need to look for someone on the side. If the relationship is really on the brink, it's better to talk about it. Maybe we can find a solution. And if not, then do not deceive each other and hide - then you just have to break up and start a new life.