The difference in age is 10: between you gap?

The difference in the age of 10 years at first glance seems very large. However, there are many examples where in a family a husband is much older than his wife, cases with a situation on the contrary are much less often known. In this article we will try to understand the peculiarities of this connection, evaluate the pros and cons, and also find out whether it is possible to take such a responsible step: to create a relationship with a partner much older or much younger than you.

Peculiarities of behavior with a man, if the difference in age is 10 years

Before starting such a relationship, consider yourself: are you ready for the "slanting" views and disapproval of a partner by relatives. After all, some people negatively assess the connection (ahead of the events, we note that this is completely unjustified), in which one of the partners is much older.

From a psychological point of view, women tend to those men who are experienced, occupy a certain position in society and have a stable arrangement of life. Unfortunately or happiness, but for most young people stability is often an ephemeral phenomenon, and very rarely there are cases when a young guy is already formed as a social element.

The choice of men is more diverse: some of them want to see alongside themselves a partner who is young, innocent and inexperienced, which they can and, most importantly - will want to protect and even patronize in some ways. Others prefer to choose a woman who can support equality in the family: work hard, know a lot and have a certain amount of experience.

Most often we can observe marriages in which a man is older than a woman. There are some requirements for the behavior of a woman who decided to link her fate with a more adult partner.

1. To improve mutual understanding, you need to navigate in the time that your chosen one found. This means both the features of the home appliance and the political regime. For example, there are people who found the existence of the USSR. To understand them better, you need to focus not only in the present, but also on the past.
2. There is an opinion that an adult male in connection with a young girl adds a year to her, and she looks more mature than she really is. Perhaps this is explained by the requirements for her behavior, which should correspond to his status.

These are the basic rules without taking into account individualities, therefore it is necessary to implement them in practice reasonably, taking into account all the subtleties. With their help, we were convinced that the main age problem really does not exist if the partners really want to be together.

"Pros" of the relationship, when the difference in the age of 10 years

1. If older than a man, then he will be more conscious about the relationship, and they will be built correctly, tk. His previous experience, most likely, taught some things that should be avoided in a love affair. From this, it acquires stability.
2. If an older woman, then there is a minimum of pluses, unless, if she is thus trying to realize the mother's feelings and show maximum concern.

Here we took a ten-year difference very conditionally, and if the difference is at the age of 12, then we get about the same psychological picture of the relationship. If the calculation takes plus / minus 4 years, then this article will remain relevant.

"Minuses" of relationships, when the difference in the age of 10 years

1. If older than a man, then, probably, he will be more exacting to the partner, tk. Knows more than her. This will happen if he needs an equality relationship.
2. There can be problems in the sexual aspect, if the partners are oriented to long years of living together.
3. If an older woman, then she risks looking even older than she is. Women are much harder to hide their age than men. Therefore, an adult lady will have to pay maximum attention to her appearance and behavior. In addition, a young guy may have a desire to tie a secret connection with a younger girl, and this thought will oppress his adult partner.

However, still the most important thing in a relationship is not a difference at the age of 11, or 10, or 12, but love. If it is, then none of the partners will have the slightest sense of an age barrier. After all, we know perfectly well that if there is no love, then even an ideal age combination will not keep the relationship "afloat."