How to become more attractive to others: 19 simple social skills

Have you always admired people that everyone likes and attracts others like a magnet? Far from all this ability is given from birth. After all, each of us can become more attractive to others, developing a number of social skills. About how to make communication productive, and we'll talk further.

Look Into Your Eyes

Heidi Grant Halvorson, author of "Nobody Understands You and What You Do With It," claims that at the first meeting people are trying to understand whether they trust a new acquaintance. And if the answer is negative, then you can forget about sympathy. This decision is carried out almost completely unconsciously and, as a rule, reduces to how you manage to balance between competence and warmth, cordiality. First of all, you should focus on what the other person is telling you. After all, people should feel that they were heard, even if in the end you can not help them in any way. The easiest way to do this is to establish eye contact and hold it. In addition, this will allow you to look more competent and smart. Therefore, starting from today, start to look people in the eye more often.

Smile

Do not underestimate this advice, because a smile is a simple and effective way to put a person to yourself. Also, laughter and jokes work well. A sense of humor makes you more attractive in the eyes of others.

Demonstrate enthusiasm

This is great advice. Along with a smile, demonstrate to others your enthusiasm. This will not only attract people to you, but will also "infect" them with your ideas. As a result, after parting they will have a warm feeling and, probably, a desire to start acting in the direction indicated by you.

Hold the phone in your pocket or bag

Adhere to this rule during a conversation or while attending a meeting or meeting. After all, if you constantly respond to messages or even calls or something to look through in the phone, your interlocutors will feel that their words are uninteresting to you and unimportant. In the end, you lose points in their eyes. So keeping a phone away is a simple, but effective habit that does not require any effort or skill.

Firm handshake

According to a number of studies, a person decides whether someone likes him, within a few seconds of getting acquainted. A firm but not too strong or dominant handshake will greatly contribute to creating a first positive impression of you.

Address people by name

It is very important. Remember how pleasant it is when someone calls you by name during a greeting or a conversation. If it's hard for you to remember how someone's called, then you can try using some strategies. So, for example, try to come up with an image or rhyme that you associate with this or that name and person.

Listen more

Do not talk all the time. Try to listen more to your interlocutor. Thanks to this, he will think that his ideas are interesting to you, and this, in turn, will have a favorable effect on his opinion of you.

Do not just listen, do it actively!

This is necessary to enhance the effect. Active listening involves four steps: recording information, clarifying or asking questions, assessing what was heard and reviewing.

Know how to take a compliment

As a rule, people are embarrassed in such circumstances, so as not to look selfish. However, if someone praised you, then do not mumble something like: "Thank you, you too." Instead, it's better to thank for the compliment and say that you really enjoyed hearing it.

A little flattery will not hurt

It's hard to start treating people badly, talking nice things about you. However, the main thing here is not to cross the border. After all, as soon as flattery ceases to look genuine, it starts to irritate.

If you interrupt someone, ask him to continue speaking

Surely, each of you was in a situation when at the time when you told a story, you were interrupted. Then it was already inconvenient for you to continue, because you were not sure that someone would be interested. And for sure you would be extremely positive about a person who would ask you to continue your fascinating narrative.

Express regret

Of course, this will always be relevant, if something has gone wrong because of your actions. However, it is also useful to express regret in the event that you want to put a person to yourself. This approach really works! So, express regret about what happened to your interlocutor. By this you will put yourself in its place, which will allow you to build an emotional connection.

Skip the conversation about nothing

Instead of wasting time on polite questions about the weather, try to go to the things that really interest you. Especially if you want to build friendly relations with your interlocutor. Even if your interests on many issues do not coincide, you can better know the other person and open yourself to him.

Remember posture

If you are slouching or are in a closed position, then others may regard this as apathy and inaccessibility. To avoid such a negative impression, you should always sit straight. So you will look confident in the eyes of other people.

Be true to your word

It is very important to take responsibility for your mistakes and fulfill all of these promises. In this case, people around you will know you as a person of your word, which will only positively affect your reputation in their eyes.

Do not complain.

No one likes to be in a society of pessimists and people who constantly talk about their problems. Psychologists often call them energy vampires, because they literally suck energy from other people. So if you caught yourself complaining, then, before it's too late, change the subject.

Help everyone feel involved in the conversation

No one likes to be ignored in a group. If you can make everyone feel involved in a conversation, then you will win their attention and respect. So if you notice that someone from the group is trying to say something, but can not find the right moment, then help him.

Do not go to conclusions

Sometimes we hurry to make an impression of a person. And very often it turns out to be erroneous. However, if you have already concluded that a particular person you do not like, then it can negatively refuse to communicate with him. Therefore, take your time with judgments.

Finish the conversation correctly

Your last words can leave an indelible impression on the interlocutor, so it is important not to be mistaken. So, ideally, when saying goodbye, you can say one of the following phrases: "I was very happy to meet you!", "I hope you have a great day!" Or "I will remember our conversation!". It is very easy to do this, and it is impossible to overestimate the value of such expressions.