What to do? I'm a fool? Do not jump to conclusions

So many jokes are made on the topic of women's logic, so many girls who are "unlucky" with their relatives hear so many mockeries from men. The apogee of pain is the moment when the female personality begins to ask herself the question: "What should I do? I'm a fool". Everyone makes a mistake, but if there is a person inclined to sadism, he will turn the knife in your wound with pleasure, writing off failure on your low intellect.

Evil I do not remember

If you are thus offended not for the first time, begin to closely monitor the abuser and ... write down all his mistakes. It will be like in an anecdote: "Evil I do not remember, so I need to write this down." At the slightest hit you get your piece of paper and read the list. And say: "I have one mistake, but you have so much. And who among us is a fool ?! Do not you think what to do? I'm a fool, but I'm learning from mistakes. "

I'll send it ... with an asterisk

For the first time, the offender will freeze, as if struck with thunder. So if your phrase "Why am I such a fool" inspired by the environment, defend yourself - and look for other people's joints. Yes, it is unpleasant, but necessary. In general, it is best to leave the bad people physically - you leave your parents, get divorced from a sadistic husband, send bad friends to a bath. You're not a masochist, are you?

First all the fools

If you made a mistake in some work, say thank you to God (or fate - to your taste) that you did it right now, and not in more difficult circumstances. Figuratively speaking, in the new field of activity, all the fools and fools. And not always people are able to learn from other people's mistakes. Do not dream of miracles - you can not teach without your mistakes, so think that you just paid the price for science.

And how stupid?

"What to do, I'm stupid!" Is the cry of the soul. Stop telling yourself that. Who gave the right to you or others to relate yourself to this or that point of the scale of intelligence? Even in the tests that are scolded by all the intelligence factors, there are no two gradations "clever" and "fool", and there are more than a hundred possible numerical variants. So calling yourself a fool is just an inaccuracy. If you are angry with yourself, the criticism of your own personality will not help, especially as destructive as a "fool-girl".

Relationships - free game field

Do not concentrate on what you are - smart or stupid. Think about what you did wrong. If we are talking about relationships, then in general, the gradation of intelligence has nothing to do with it. It is impossible to manage relationships, no matter what they write in smart books. Interaction between people occurs in different ways, they do not always converge with characters, that is, it is foolish to worry about what does not depend on you. And for each individual, tactics and strategy will have to be chosen separately. Do not transfer negative experience to a new relationship - because people are very different.

How to become smarter

The phrase "What to do, I'm a fool?" Says that you are emotionally ill. And he does not say anything else. It's better to put the question differently: "How to become smarter?" Become more curious, inquisitive, read more, learn what is difficult for you, ask questions and find answers to them. Even reading forums on "hobbies" increases your awareness and indirectly can increase your intelligence. Do not despair and do not call yourself a fool! If you do not have the diagnosis of "mental retardation", everything can be corrected.