We In The Answer For Those Who Tamed

Wedding is the happiest day in everyone's life. But then played Mendelssohn's march, the newlyweds congratulated each other with a conjugal kiss, exchanged rings, received congratulations from relatives and friends. They are full of joy and full of hope. After all, there is a whole life ahead, a happy family life.

What awaits them in the future? Do you know that every 10 marriages have 6 to 8 divorces? Shocking data, is not it?

Let's see why this happens. Why do we all, getting married, draw in our imagination rainbow images of an ideal family life, and as a result, most of us are disappointed in marriage, in their chosen one, and indeed in all men?

We ourselves choose a partner in life. We ourselves choose the road by which we will go. On this road there will be many forks, and we will always have to think carefully before deciding and stepping on the chosen path. On this road there will be many descents and ascents, and we will have to gain strength to move on to resist and not fall.

There he is, the man we've been waiting for our whole life. We fall in love and let ourselves be loved. We try to look better than it really is. We use our female charms to win the heart of the chosen one: we bring our body to perfection, we put on intriguing outfits and sexy underwear on dates, use aphrodisiac spirits. And now the arrow of the cupid hit the target exactly. The young man is obedient. He is ready to do everything for us. His beautiful courtship and endless devotion flatter our vanity. He becomes the Fox whom we have tamed ...

After a while we get married. Fox lives with us under one roof, helps to raise children, performs work on the au pair, provides a family. And we? Often we just relax. We no longer try to look like one hundred percent, do not flirt with coquettishness and do not try to attract attention, and Fox's efforts are taken for granted. So, we deceive him ?! Where is the seductress, the beauty on which he married? Where is that loyal friend to whom he trusted the innermost and was always confident of support? Where is that passionate lover who drove him crazy? Let's be honest with ourselves. We stop playing our role, which used to evoke an ovation.

The Fox, whom we have tamed, begins to wonder at the changes that are happening to us. After all, he hoped for quite another. In turn, we also pay attention to those things that are so obvious, but we were not noticed during the period of passion, and which begin to become problems. There are first quarrels and misunderstandings.

It's time to reflect - and what do I do to save the warmth of the fire, which flared up with a bright flame at the beginning of the novel? What do I do to prevent it from becoming extinct?

No wonder the woman is considered the keeper of the family hearth. The purpose of a woman is to be a good wife and mother. In times of conflict, it is she who is destroying the situation, smoothing out sharp corners. Her love and care help the child to stand on their feet, and wisdom and the attention they show make a happy husband. Agree, not an easy matter. And many of them, unfortunately, can not cope.

It should also be remembered that in any marriage there are critical periods during which the test of the strength of the family is going on. At the very beginning of a joint life, in the first years after the birth of a child, after leaving him from the parental home, special care and vigilance should be shown. After all, it is at such moments that the possibility of a family breakdown is greatest. In addition, we all stick to our own life cycles, in which there are peaks - the stages when we subconsciously begin to pick on everything, fall into depression, in the near

We see the enemy. It is important that these peaks do not coincide with the spouses. Then in difficult moments one will be supported by the other.

But this is all theory. In practice, we completely forget about the advice of psychologists. We are too proud to concede, to compromise. In a fit of anger, we lose control of ourselves, and then regret it. But it's already too late. Marriage gives a crack. You can not stick a broken cup. Fate breaks down, and often innocent children become victims of mistakes.

Nobody thinks about it, going under the Mendelssohn march in the registrar, giving an oath of loyalty and promising to love and respect each other. Everyone hopes that they will not suffer such a sad fate. And this, probably, is correct. We must believe in the best, go to our dream of a happy marriage.

As they say, our destiny is in our hands. And we can make our life bright, colorful, full of love. We can make our spouse happy, raise children in a real, strong family, giving them our example.

To come to such an alliance, it is necessary to work hard. Let's start with ourselves. We will return the image that the Fox loved. Let's change our appearance. Forget about the shapeless robes and dimensionless nightclubs - we will put on the causing underwear and negligee. Let's bring our body in order. We will begin to show more attention and care to the second half. We will always meet him with a sincere smile on his face. It does not matter that the day was not a success, the chief scolded, and the saleswoman nahamila. The beloved is not guilty of the fact that the rest of the world is not perfect. He expects us to caress, love and tenderness. We do not deny him that!

... after many, many years we will walk side by side unstable old gait, holding each other wrinkled hands, but our eyes will still shine, as in youth. It will be a special shine from happiness, which blinds us with its rays. We will carry through the life of love, endless loyalty and devotion to each other, mutual respect.