The former wife is not a cause for torment

Statistics of divorces in our country are inexorably growing every year. And this is only official data and facts. And how many people "run up", just having lived in a civil marriage, can not be counted.

For many women in the new relationship, the former wife becomes the stumbling block . Often a child is attached to it, and sometimes not one. And if, entering into these new relationships, from the unnecessary second half, it is possible at least somehow to get out, then there are no former children. And if in a man there is at least a drop of conscience and consciousness, then his current companion has to somehow tolerate such a phenomenon as "ex-wife", which is not always easy to do.

Psychology is a strange thing, and the subconscious is a mysterious thing. When marrying a man who has an anamnesis as an ex-spouse, the woman begins to compare herself with her, thereby reducing her self-esteem. Often this happens unconsciously, contrary to the wishes of the most newly married wife, but it is difficult to do anything about it, although it is possible.

This situation will improve a little if the former wife starts dating someone or remarries. Then the meeting with her at the man will be reduced to a minimum, and his current woman will be somehow calmer.

Well, if the situation is not very lucky, then you need to try to somehow move away from the comparison, try to convince yourself that each person is unique and some of your qualities attract a man much more, since he is currently near. And with this thought you need to continue to live quietly, without winding yourself around trifles.

According to many psychologists, men also compare their former wives, girlfriends with these. This is quite natural and often occurs unconsciously.

If you do not take into account the suspiciousness of women who believe that when comparing a man, most likely prefers his former, then not everything is so bad. After all, no one can "get into" the head of another person to find out what he thinks. And if the comparison is in favor of today's life, and the current wife is already behind her with a rolling pin in her hands? It is not worth turning into an angry fury, it's much better to just accept the mere fact of comparison as inevitability in life.

If you harass a loved one with constant quibbles, jealousy of his past, then he may have an idea about how to return his ex-wife. After all, sometimes people part for some sort of far-fetched reasons, because they could not find out anything and talk about something.

By her behavior, a woman can both refute and confirm the idea that the ex-wife is better. To do this, do not do anything extraordinary, it is enough to constantly "get" a man with constant comparisons and jealousy, and, as some like to do, "saw" the husband paying alimony. The wife, especially the one who is the former and wants to return her husband back, is only at hand.

In summary, we can say that building a family relationship is not easy. That they were strong and long, requires mutual understanding, love and respect for each other. And, of course, angelic patience and ability to smooth conflicts.