Quarrel. How to Reconcile the Close and the Colleagues?

In life, often there are situations when your loved ones or colleagues quarrel. On the one hand, it's better and much smarter not to get into other people's business. And on the other - how not to intervene, if this quarrel, anyway, affects you? It is not easy to live in an atmosphere of constant conflict. But it is very difficult to be reconciling too: you have to be particularly sensitive and cautious, because if something goes wrong, you risk aggravating the quarrel or even quarrel with those you are trying to reconcile. However, there are some simple rules that will help you cope with the reconciliation mission.

Rule number 1. Before interfering in a quarrel, Find out whether the participants themselves want this conflict. Ask each of them if you can help them clarify the situation and try to reconcile them. But in no case do not impose your help and do not be offended if people reject it. Remember: it's still their business.

Rule number 2. Do not try to reconcile people right after the quarrel. When emotions are still boiling, and grievances are too fresh and strong, do not insist on peaceful negotiations, otherwise you will fall under the hot hand. Give people time to cool down and recover. When the passions are settled, it will be easier for them to take a step towards reconciliation.

Rule No. 3. Most likely, each of the opponents of the quarrel will tend to draw you to their side, do not fall into this trap - keep neutrality. Many conflicts are due to misunderstanding, so it is very important to look at the situation from the outside. So it will be easier for you to understand the cause of the disorder and help the quarrels to agree.

Rule number 4. Your loved ones should know that you are not hypocritical and do not play with someone for one, which means you can judge them fairly. Do not tell any of the participants that he is right, because the quarrel has a share of the guilt of each side.

Rule number 5. In the process of reconciliation, you can learn a lot of negative about the participants in the conflict, it can be as a conjecture about motives of actions or even personal secrets. Do not rush to trust this information, watch your speech, if one of the quarrels learns something extra about the other, the quarrel will break out with a new force and touch you directly.

Rule number 6. Do not persuade the quarreled people to hush up the conflict and pretend that nothing has happened. Only by putting all the points above i, you can understand what to do to prevent the conflict from happening again.

Rule number 7. The quarrels in the cut refuse to negotiate? This is their right. Maybe they are not ready yet, or maybe the insult is too strong. You just have to accept it.

Remember these rules and you will be able to reconcile your loved ones. Know, warm memories will drive off the insult and it is easier to reconcile with the person, when you understand why he did this.