Where and how to spend a funeral dinner

A funeral dinner can be held in many cafes or restaurants. When choosing an institution that will provide a menu that corresponds to the traditions of Orthodoxy or another faith, it is necessary to take into account its cost and location.

A funeral dinner is held on Orthodox customs three times. On the day of the funeral - the first wake. Then after 9 days. But the third funeral dinner is already on the fortieth day.

The tradition of commemoration of the departed comes from a distant past. Such rituals exist in other faiths of different nations. This is connected with the people's hope for the immortality of the human soul. In Christianity, this custom is always reduced to a memorial meal. But do not assume that this is a simple meal. Memorial dinner is a special ritual that is held to remember a deceased person, show respect for him and remember his good deeds.

To remember the deceased is taken by kutya, pancakes and kissel. Everyone who comes to the plate is put on the pancake and poured jelly. In a cafe it is permissible to deliver caviar to cold pancakes, cold fish snacks or include in the menu stuffed pancakes.

As a rule, people of the Orthodox faith during the wake-up offer prayers to Christ, asking him for peace for the soul of the deceased. All actions that take place during this event are filled with a special sacral meaning. On such a day everything has a special significance, which is why the menu in the memorial meal is special.

Before starting to commemorate, you should read the prayer "Our Father". Then the ninth-century psalm or hold the lithium. During the whole feast it is necessary to remember the deceased. Talk at this time should be pious. You can not laugh, foul language, sing funny songs, remember the wrong actions of the deceased.

It should be remembered that the main dish in the memorial meal - kutya - is a special cereal made of wheat or rice, which is filled with raisins and honey. Grains in such a crop must necessarily be whole.

Kutya should be illuminated or at least sprinkled with holy water. Everyone present at this event must try it. This dish means eternal life. The grain from which the kutya is made reminds that man, like this grain, sprouts, that is, is reborn, in Christ. In the Christian faith there is no such thing as reincarnation.

It is often believed that the abundance of food at the memorial dinner signifies great sorrow. This is not so, the food on the table should be the easiest. Especially it should be remembered at the remembrance during the fast. What is important here is that the people gathered remember the deceased.

It is necessary to know some features of this ritual ceremony. If there is a wake in Lent, the believing people carry them on the sixth or seventh day of the week, because at this time the fast is very strict. If there are wake-ups in a cafe, then all men should traditionally be without a headdress, and women, on the contrary, should be with covered heads. This is a certain tribute to the deceased person. These are the features of a memorial dinner for Christians.