Psychology of a teenager

Adolescence , transitional age, puberty - this state has many names, but as it is not called, and to abandon the fact that during this period the psychology of a teenager is built is meaningless. Many parents deny the fact that their 10-year-old little child begins to grow up and needs close attention. Indeed, the period of breaking of life, mental and sexual-physical development begins on average in 10 years and lasts till 18 years, however psychologists still can not come to a common opinion what age to call teenage, and what youthful. After all, this age, dragging on for several years, also divides in turn into several stages. In particular, the first stage when a child ceases to consider himself a child, and the second, when a teenager begins to equate himself with an adult, and, consequently, sets new standards of behavior for himself, which, in his opinion, correspond to the behavior of an adult. In this period it is very important for parents not to distance themselves from the adolescent, but on the contrary to take an active part in shaping his worldview and social position in society. It is important to take his position as an adult and communicate with him on an equal footing, not to oppress his interests, arguing that he is a child and can not make his own decisions. The age psychology of the adolescent is such that during the growing up period, the awareness of one's self is formed and the logical and abstract thinking develops actively, so there is the so-called deviant behavior, when the adolescent has "authorities", whose behavior he considers the standard of adult and Seeks to imitate him. In this case, the ideal for the development of personality will be the direction of the adolescent in the right direction in order to form adequate correct norms of behavior in him.

There is a term like "psychology of a difficult teenager," many say that at this age, children become uncontrollable, capricious and aggressive. I will not agree with this, or rather not quite agree. This behavior is manifested in the child only with the wrong approach to the education of adolescents in the family, the school and its incorrect socialization. At this age, socialization - the realization of oneself as an individual with their needs and personal traits - is extremely necessary and important for the child. If parents and others do not support the adolescent's desire to be independent and make their own decisions, he often perceives this as hostile and begins to seek support elsewhere, and this is fraught with the appearance of wrong goals, motivations, and as a result leads to the formation of inadequate behavior.

The psychology of the adolescent is oriented towards the appearance of one's own goals in life, they strive to set their own goals and achieve them with all their might, adolescents differ in purposefulness and assertiveness that in no case can one extinguish, but only maintain and develop these traits. But, unfortunately, in most cases in our families this is perceived as a protest, as a child's challenge to an adult and begins an active suppression of the parents of all the psychological neoplasms of a teenager.

The psychology of the adolescent is complex and ambiguous, and in every person it passes in different ways, and the duration of this period is determined by many factors, including family, school, teachers, society, psychologists, the media and much more. However, do not forget that through this each of us passed, and everyone remembers how important it is to get support during this period from the closest ones - your family. So listen to your teenage children and support them.