How to understand yourself, understand and love yourself?

The desire to understand yourself usually arises when you feel discontent with yourself, you feel that in your life something is not going the way you wanted. Or when you do the same things in some situations, you realize that this is not right, but there is no way out.

How do people usually try to know themselves? They read books, try to pass psychological tests about themselves, find like-minded people and those who touched on the theme of self-improvement.

Also people start to keep a diary or blog, where they write down their thoughts and analyze the events taking place in their life. This is a very useful lesson in self-knowledge. It gives an opportunity to realize where the troubles come from. In addition, it is important to be able to look at yourself from the outside. And if at times it is difficult to assess their actions, then when they are thoughtfully read, you can look at the situation, your thoughts and actions with the look of a third person.

The process of self-improvement is a long way, sometimes not having an ultimate goal. It is just as natural for a person as breathing and eating. But how to make self-improvement calm and comfortable? How to understand yourself better and accept yourself as you are?

Many people are prone to perfectionism. They set themselves ideal goals and exhaust themselves with their achievements. The main feeling is fear to blunder in front of the public, there is a desire to be perfect in everything. But look at life really. Because in nature there is no ideal. Look at the window - on the trees or on the stones. They appear before us in their original form, without thinking about any standards of beauty and perfection. For someone, the ideal weight is 65 kg, and for someone - 45, and with the same growth. And while this figure in weight is not reached, a person wears himself out with diets, gnaws at himself and can not fall in love with such as he is. In fact, self-love is not the presence of any specific characteristics. It's like a mother's feelings: a mother loves her child just because he is. You also need to treat yourself.

It does not matter how you look and how much you weigh. It does not matter if you've found your soul mate, or else it's somewhere in the future. If you have dissatisfaction with yourself, and you set goals for yourself, the fulfillment of which, in your opinion, will raise your self-esteem is a wrong way.

To achieve any goals, first of all, it is necessary to listen to your desires and go to their fulfillment. In addition to this, there must be confidence in yourself. And without love, this can not be said.

How to understand yourself, to realize your own games, non-adaptive behavior and enjoy life? Most often with such questions to the psychologist the women address. In this women are very similar to cats: how do you think how many a cat is capable of being in an uncomfortable, uncomfortable position? Try to experiment. You hardly have time to count to 10.

Women's strength lies in the fact that they are not afraid to seem weak. If it's bad, uncomfortable or something hurts, a woman tries to change her condition for the better. Of course, it is not worthwhile to put everyone under the "one comb", it all depends on the individual, but women are easier to admit their weakness than men. They can turn the problem into a goal. They set a task for themselves, how to understand themselves and begin to solve it in every possible way.

Let us use this quality for our own good. We must understand how to understand ourselves, and not fight against ourselves, as many do. Must find their own strengths, which can help in achieving certain goals. In this case, the goal is to understand and accept yourself.