Disappointment in people is not a reason to "tie" with them

Probably, almost every person in life was disappointed. In people, in animals, in yourself ... In these periods of life you want to close in yourself, not talk with anyone and not trust anyone. However, this is strictly prohibited, otherwise the usual disappointment in a person can lead to a real depression. About what to do and how to live on, we are talking about in the article.

Become wiser

Whenever a person experiences frustration in people, it brings him a certain experience. It is thanks to the latter that wisdom accumulates. If disappointment was more or less justified, and not contrived, then in the future the person, most likely, will not admit such situations, will not make the same mistakes.

The main thing in this case is that disappointment does not become clinical. Otherwise, people will never again be able to trust people, and this is bad. Then it will be useless to talk about wisdom and life experience, but you can only send the disappointed to the psychologist. True, the case can be called truly clinical, if the feeling of emptiness and dissatisfaction with others lasts a long time, rather than a couple of days or weeks.

Why is this happening

Disappointment in people can come about for many reasons. The most common ones are:

1. Betrayal. When a person betrays, it hurts. And this leads to disappointment. And it's good if only the same traitor becomes the "object of dislike", otherwise the idea that all people are bastards can not be trusted. Everything depends on the scale of human meanness.
2. Treason. This is the same betrayal, but because it is committed not just a friend, but a loved one, people react to betrayal more violently. Most often disappointed in the potential "second half" and then are afraid to start a relationship.
3. False. Lies, especially large, is perceived, again, as a betrayal. There is a difference, of course, but there is only one sense: we understand that we have been deceived for a long time, we are disappointed in a concrete person, and then, perhaps, we completely stop believing people.
4. Unjustified expectations. This is the most basic reason; All the above and many others emanate from it. Any disappointment is due to the fact that a person hopes too much for something. He builds (in his head) illusions that have arisen not from the real state of affairs, but from his own imagination, so it is not surprising that they disintegrate like a house of cards, leaving the dreamer in a broken trough.

How to survive disappointment

After another denunciation of human vices, committing unseemly deeds and other unpleasant situations, a perfectly understandable question comes to mind: how to survive the disappointment in people? It seems that everyone around is just like the man who did not live up to your expectations. In fact, this, of course, is not so.

The only way to survive the disappointment - anyone, including people - to understand, forgive and reconcile with the idea that there is no one / nothing ideal on the Earth. Without this, nothing at all. Only the realization of the futility of trying to find a person without a single defect can help get rid of frustration now and prevent such situations from happening in the future. However, the latter is discussed in more detail below.

How not to be disappointed in people in the future

The advice provided below will prompt you how to learn to avoid feelings of dissatisfaction about unfulfilled expectations from people.

1. First, you should stop idealizing others. You can not find a perfect person, so you should not even try.
2. Secondly, one must become tolerant of other people's opinions and thoughts. Disappointed in a person only because of his musical, political or other preferences is stupid.
3. Thirdly, it is necessary to try to forget about the person who has disappointed you and not judge him by other people. At least because absolutely identical people simply do not happen.
4. Fourthly, one can not see in all surrounding enemies. After the disappointment it seems like everything around is bad, but it's not.
5. Fifth, you need to listen to other people. Then in the future there will be no disagreements and cries from the side of the "rival" in the style: "I already told you about something, what are your complaints ?!", etc.
6. Sixthly, you can not pin great hopes on people. The less you expect from a person something, the less likely the frustration will be in the future. Treat others as they deserve, and do not expect anything from them.

Statuses and statements about disappointment in people

Everyone sometimes wants to show their pain. Then the status of disappointment in people can be very useful, so as not to complain to everyone you meet, yet tell others what is going on in the soul. Another reason for their use is the opportunity to turn the situation into a joke or look at it with a new look. This is mainly helped by not ordinary statuses, but by wise statements about disappointment in a person. They not only help to cope with the pain, but also to think about the future, in which you can avoid such mistakes.

• A dog is a man's best friend. Do not betray, not fail, support in a difficult moment and never disappoint.
• Oh, the wedding. Women marry out of curiosity, and men marry boredom. As a result, it turns out that both sides are severely disappointed.
• The more you experience frustration in life, the less you believe in the existence of worthy people.
• The main thing is to never expect anything from others. And then you will not have to experience disappointment in people.
• Not loneliness attracts me. I just do not want to get acquainted with someone again, so as not to experience another disappointment.
• There is a charm in not loving anyone. Do not feel disappointed.

So, now that you know a little more about this feeling, you can avoid it in the future. Treat people easier - and life will become easier.