Be friends Do not Love

Friendship is an integral part of happiness. It can not be bought, bought in a store, or subordinated to one's will. That is why we cherish it, we try not to allow the loss of close friends. As the Russian proverb says, "Do not have a hundred rubles, but have a hundred friends." Of course, there are not many friends. But those people who were awarded this status are equated with family members. The choice of friends does not depend on sex, musical preferences or any other criteria. These people just become native over time.

Some cynics argue that friendship between a man and a woman is impossible. It is possible. But it is very reckless and, as a rule, is caused by some reasons. For example, if you are familiar with childhood and walked together on foot under the table. Or if your friend is gay. There is no room even for hints of "frontiers". But if you are not friends for so long (a year, six months), but it seems as if you have known all your life, then the chance that one of you will fall in love with another, 98%. At first he just walked to the house - but you're friends, that's fine. Then he called for a walk together - everyone sometimes needs to rest from everyone. Then he calms down after another break with the next boyfriend. And suddenly "the heads have turned around, the hand has slipped, and the friendship has flown to the devil." And the day does not seem full, if it's not around. His presence, his gaze, everything became native and necessary. Then there are two options for the development of events. Or you will overcome all obstacles, erase all boundaries and be happy together, or draw a clear line that will not give you a chance to make a step towards each other.

If at this point you are both in a relationship with someone, it is worthwhile to consider whether these new relations are worth stopping old. Perhaps a real relationship with a best friend will seem to you far from your ideals and perceptions. Another option: you are free, he is busy. Here we must be able to observe and draw the right conclusions from what we saw. Specifically, it is worthwhile to understand what is more important for you: your own happiness or the happiness of your friend. Perhaps, by starting to meet with him, you will destroy the wonderful relationship, and failing to give anything in return. The third situation on the one hand is the easiest, and on the other the most difficult. You are both free. It seems, of course, immediately, without thinking, to go to action. But here there are many pitfalls. What will remain after your relationship? It is unlikely that friendship is in its original form. But on the other hand, without trying, it will not remain the same either. And we return to the title of this article. You can not love friends. Everyone decides where to put a comma. Everyone sets priorities. In any case, it is worth living on the principle "everything that is done, everything for the better." And you will see that this is indeed so.