7 phrases that destructively affect the psyche of your child

The anger, fatigue and frustration that accumulate due to daily problems can cause you to say things that you really do not mean. And very often because of the parents' fatigue, their problems or anger, it's children who suffer. After all, they are defenseless and trust you. So, they become comfortable targets, if you need to let off steam and calm down. However, you can not control the consequences of all those words that speak to the child in such a state, and they may not be what you expect. Here is a list of the worst things that a child can not say, regardless of his age. But it is especially detrimental to young children.

1. Do not cry, it does not really matter

They're just kids, right? Hence, they have no problems, worries, sorrows, disappointments and fears. As adults, we often make the mistake of thinking that it is so. Children as well as adults (if not more) experience emotions. The difference is that they can not fully express them or they can calm down on their own, as adults can do. Is not that much worse? Therefore, never belittle fears, doubts, conflicts, or even scratches that occur in your child's life. Help him learn how to react to them correctly and overcome them.

2. How I wish you were more like a brother

We do not win anything by comparing our children. But this can cause outrage among family members. And between the guys will certainly begin rivalry. And so it is not far until finding out the relationship, which parents love more. Sometimes the words spoken by parents in anger, the word becomes the cause of long-standing enmity between children. Do you want such a future for your children? I'm sure not. So make sure you do not resort to comparisons. Each of the children is unique and special in its own way.

3. You can not do anything right

Nobody wants to hear this. Imagine what your little daughter feels when you say such words to her. What a terrible feeling it is when parents think that you do not know how to do anything. And even if it is not so, and you said it in your heart, rest assured that the child will remember this for a long time. If the baby did something wrong, broke the toy or spoiled the cake, take a deep breath and ask yourself what is more important. The answer is always the same: children are much more important than anything.

4. You make me blush

If your child very often tries to attract the attention of others, starts screaming, jumping, singing or just being capricious, perhaps he just needs more attention. Never express your embarrassment - neither to friends, acquaintances or strangers, nor even in private. Why not schedule such a show at home, where the kid feels like a star. It is possible that your child will discover artistic talents. In addition, there is another plus. It's a good way to spend time together, in a family circle.

5. You are very fat / ugly / stupid

Our children believe in everything we say to them. Parents are for them the most reliable source of information, as well as the main people who love them. And such negative statements can only damage the self-esteem of your children. Even if your child is overweight or not the first student in school, the responsibility for this, first of all, lies with you. So, you could not teach the baby how to eat properly and did not follow his progress at school very much, and maybe even forgot to check whether he does homework. So now you need to focus on the strengths of your child and not focus on your own imperfection. Although, of course, you must correct the missed.

6. I regret that I gave birth to you.

I can not name anything worse that a child can hear from his parents. Never and under no circumstances do not say this to your child. Even for fun. It's sad to realize this, but not all children are born in loving families. And not for all parents their child is desirable. But anyway, during pregnancy you decided to leave it. A child should never know whether you have any doubts about this. Children want to know that they are desirable, and they are loved, regardless of the mistakes that they make.

7. I've had enough. I do not love you

Sometimes, even without realizing this, we begin to joke in this way with our children. For example, your three-year-old daughter is upset because you do not allow her to eat a second portion of ice cream after dinner. You are trying to explain to her several times that ice cream in large quantities is harmful to her, and therefore she will not be able to get what she wants. However, the baby does not respond to such words. She is angry, crying and says she does not love you. In this situation, you might think that the easiest way to say the same thing in response. But the truth is that this will only harm your daughter, as she will cause her subconscious fear. But what kind of reaction will be correct? You have to explain to her again why she can not get an extra portion of dessert, and then remind her that you will always love her, even if she is angry with you. From this lesson she will be able to understand much more than you can imagine.

If you, first of all, think about the feelings and welfare of your children and make a little effort on yourself, you can avoid these harmful phrases. And your kids will feel loved and protected from everything that can happen to them.