5 ways how we hurt our parents without realizing it

Many of us sincerely love and appreciate their parents. But sometimes we do not even know that we are hurting them. They are so tactful that they are afraid to tell us too much. In this publication we will highlight five main things that really hurt our old people. If you have adult children, you can compare what we proposed with the situation in your family. If you are still young, our information will be valuable in order to avoid your future mistakes.

You are less likely to call them

Time is running so fast that you simply can not keep up with it. So this month, you caught yourself thinking that you called your parents only once. You have not asked for a long time about health and what's new about them in life. Probably they need your help, but they somehow do not dare to ask for it. Each of us once thought: "Why should I call first?". Of course, parents should also take the initiative. They are simply aware of your busy and busy schedule, about business meetings and the ever-changing schedule. They do not want to disturb us at the most inopportune moment.

So do not be selfish and take the initiative. No one is asking to talk for hours. Just dial the number of your mother and ask if she is all right with her health. Share your joy with your own successes or just tell us how the day went. Sometimes just hearing the voice of a native person is already happiness. And it does not matter at all about what is at stake. If you have time, talk about all sorts of trifles. Believe me, parents deserve your attention and are constantly waiting for him. It will bring them much more happiness than you could imagine. At the end of the conversation, be sure to mention how much you love them.

You borrow money from them

Many children call their parents only when they have financial difficulties. Careful mom and dad protect every penny, and they always have modest savings. They are not used to spending money on trifles and have not bought anything new for a very long time. Please do not ask them for money, even if you have serious difficulties. You will manage on your own. Adult healthy people have a head in order to figure out how to make money, and hands in order to do it. And the modest means of parents should remain intact. They should feel confident in the future. If you've borrowed money once before, try to remember if you've returned everything.

You forgot about birthday

Despite the fact that the parents are already at an age, this does not mean that they are not anxiously waiting for their own birthday. They also crave congratulations, warm words and gifts. And for them the attention is more valuable, and not the value of the thing. But if your own child did not even call on this memorable day, for them it is a real catastrophe. So you can forget anything, but not Mom's birthday.

Remember how happy you feel when you receive attention signs from their side on your day. Believe me, they do not differ much from you. Just ask beforehand what your mom or dad wants to receive as a gift for your anniversary. You can not ask in the forehead, but ask someone from the nearest environment. The more valuable will be the surprise. Even if you currently do not have money for a decent gift, you can get out of the situation and send a beautiful congratulation by mail.

If you live close to each other, be sure to come to the mother with flowers, hug her and say pleasant words. She will treat you with a piece of a holiday cake, and you will have a nice conversation after tea. Do not offend the native person with an early departure, because she was waiting for you. If mom or dad is aged, invite to celebrate a birthday party in your house. Psychologists say: the more close relatives people are surrounded on the day of their 70th birthday, the happier they are.

You do not offer them your help

Even if you once warned your father that at any moment he can count on you, this does not mean you have to sit back and wait for a distress call. As we have already said, many parents are too tactful, too proud and do not want to remind themselves again. The sufferings of parents can be immeasurable, but you will not even know about it. Therefore, without embarrassment, offer your help. However, in this case, the old can refuse your services.

Then take the initiative in your own hands and look carefully. Probably, the apartment needs some repairs or the basic household appliances went out of order. If the parents live in a private house, be sure to inspect the stairs for the strength of the structure. Advise your mother to go up to the attic less, because the elderly have already disrupted the coordination of movements. This can lead to fractures, other injuries, and sometimes even to paralysis. Take care that the father does not rake the snow from the roof and does not clean the gutter. Do it yourself. Old people will certainly thank you for your help, and you will receive satisfaction from honestly accomplished debt.

Your family events take place without their participation

Of course, you can not include parents in the number of events that you plan to hold. Some parties are for the young. However, the main family celebrations can not do without expensive guests. Such special occasions as baptism, graduation parties in children's educational institutions, the first steps to school, a wedding, an important concert of the granddaughter or grandchildren's competitions, New Year can not do without your parents. In addition, you can simply invite them to dinner on a regular day off. You have no idea how they will be pleased. Never refuse a return visit.