Women prefer conciliatory sex to heart-to-heart talk

Each of us has his own ways of solving problems in a relationship. Some we do not even control: someone starts crying, someone is screaming. There are those who prefer to ignore the problems and translate any clash into a tender and passionate "let's forget about everything" sex. We use sex and think that it is able to "repair" the relationship. But it's not that it works very much, which was confirmed by a recent study. It also found out that women who feel increasingly thin have long understood this.

From the point of view of sociology

A new study called "Differences in Behavior after a Romantic Conflict" (oh, it sounds hot!) Suggests that although men like to receive sexual services (such as oral satisfaction) or a "good gesture" after a quarrel, women do not find sexual resolutions useful.

From the choice: to have sex instead of / after a quarrel and that their partner apologized, gave them a cry and spent time with them, the interviewed women preferred the second option.

Interesting fact! Representatives of both sexes said that they would like gifts after the quarrel, but men often offered gifts as a way of solving problems than women.

On the other hand, the survey coverage was rather small, so its results are difficult to generalize and carry over to the whole community.

How did the study go?

The researchers asked 74 people to evaluate ways to resolve conflicts on their effectiveness, and although men showed a stronger preference for sexual activities, women were also not completely against this idea. They were just inclined to evaluate communication above.

Causes

Researchers believe that the difference depends on the gender roles in the relationship and the reasons why people start them.

Previous studies show that men are more likely to remain with partners who are "sexually available" (which means that couples have mostly regular sex), so it makes sense that they value sex as a way to improve the situation.

Meanwhile, women prefer signs of emotional, not sexual, attachment, so they are more likely to choose to work on the problem, and not just get rid of it.

And is everything so unambiguous?

The results reflect only things that men and women consider useful when it comes to arguments in disputes, and not about what is actually most effective.

Perhaps, although people think they want to have sex or talk to correct the situation, the opposite choice may work better for their relationship. Not necessarily there is only one correct answer.

The conclusion that we can draw from the research is not to "cease to engage in conciliatory sex," but to accept the partner's point of view when choosing methods for resolving the conflict.

Be open to several ways, ask the person you meet, what he thinks is effective, and just do what's right for both of you.

Have sex, if it works for you, but still discuss the situation a little later. Use sex as an opportunity to relieve tension and keep emotions during a conversation under control.