Never tease your children because of this!

There is no doubt that playful banter on children can have positive consequences. However, before you start teasing a child, mentally draw a line for which you will not cross under any circumstances. We will tell you about the forbidden topics for jokes, otherwise your crumb is ensured by depression, anger, anxiety, low self-esteem, and with systematic "pricks" - depression.

Playful cheats on appearance

Studies show that playful banter between parents and children can be an excellent way to build trust. However, parents should understand that they can accidentally offend a child in their own words. Pay attention to the reaction of the crumbs. If the smile vanishes from his face, his gaze is directed to the side - this is the first sign that the statement hurt wounded a young tomboy. The child frowns and goes away at once, as soon as you touch on the forbidden topics: his complexion, freckles, pimples, protruding ears and any other features of appearance.

For educational purposes, you can tease children about the disorder in the room, as well as what can be easily changed (for example, poor posture or moody behavior). Remember that stinging nicks should resemble a two-way street, so let the kid make jokes. You forgot to wash the dishes, and the kid called you a slob? Emphasize its cleanliness and thank for its observance. But if you do not like his remark, tell me frankly that he hurt your feelings. Ask him not to speak any more offensive words.

Sports Results

Children love to play sports, because the movement brings them joy. On the other hand, the toddlers give up active activities in circles or sections, as soon as the occupation seems to them "not fun". What else can make a child cool to sports? Of course, parental control and participation in training. Coming to the lesson, you show that you do not trust the coach. The baby himself will feel the increased pressure, responsibility and fear of making a mistake. Teasing during training and competition is a natural moment within the team. But if the witticisms and causticities emanate from parents, it's quite another matter. Do not expect your child to become an Olympic champion and glorify your name. Do not put before him inflated expectations, believing that your caustic remarks will be an incentive to greater diligence. In fact, the penultimate place in the race, where most of the children were a year older, is not a reason to laugh at the child's weakness. Thus, you provoke a child to quit sports and lower his self-esteem.

Failures in studies

Do not think that bad results in studies can only disappoint you. A small schoolboy also painfully perceives his failures. He is experiencing difficulties and sees that his peers study is much easier. Teasing in the educational process can be used only in one case: if the kid forgot to sit down on time for doing homework. But mocking the child's mental faculties is taboo. Also remember that any tease should contain an element of humor. And if your statements can not be considered ridiculous, give them up altogether. When you are upset with the evaluation for the test work, leave your expectations to yourself. Now it's impossible to change, and the next time your son or daughter will try harder if they feel support from you. Never speak of your disappointments, and even more, do not ask this rhetorical question: "To whom are you so stupid?".

Shyness

People become introverts and extroverts in a deep childhood. Therefore shyness is absolutely normal quality for the overwhelming number of closed and quiet children. Do not think that in the future shyness will somehow complicate the life of your child. The kid will find his vocation in quiet, quiet pursuits, which require perseverance and concentration of attention. In no case do not push the shy child to friendship with peers. Simply more often arrange holidays in the house, invite classmates or visit amusement parks. If the isolation of the baby will bother you further, go for a consultation with the school psychologist.

Excessive enthusiasm for study

Peers call these children "botanists." But the kid should not suffer from his uniqueness, because he gets a lot from envious peers. Do not have the habit of teasing the intellectual abilities of children, as in the case of insufficiently developed intelligence, and in the case of its excessive development. Never say such things: "You can not even stand up for yourself, why do you need your mind?". Especially do not compare your child with peers, brothers or sisters, using negative or offensive epithets. Do not draw parallels with the outstanding minds of modern times, this will negatively affect the children's self-awareness. Instead, bring to your own child one simple idea: it is unique, to no one like a person.

Excess weight

Unfortunately, obesity is the harsh reality of our days. This problem refers to the category of medical and is a real scourge of low-income segments of the population, as well as representatives of the middle class. Paradoxically, scientific research shows that the stigma "fatty" or "fatty" in childhood increases the chances of increasing excess weight in adulthood. Strangely enough, but ridicule over teenagers inclined to fullness, in ten years almost always give an increased body mass index of the latter.

And if teasing by peers is somehow justified, then the jokes about the child's complexion, expressed by parents, do not lend themselves to a logical explanation. Do not ask about the health of a teenager, when you go shopping and try on new jeans. The child already knows that he is not like everyone else, and that his body does not meet generally accepted standards. In addition, if the children are upset by offensive remarks (even if they were not made out of malice or in jocular form), they will go and eat another portion of sweet, to somehow restore the balance of chemical compounds in the brain.

Fears

Be afraid of dogs, strangers or monsters under the bed - this is normal for a child phenomenon. And if for you all these fears seem stupid and unreasonable, your baby perceives them as a reality. Joking injections will not help to overcome phobias, but only exacerbate the situation. To solve this problem, help your child feel safe.

Choosing clothes

Most children develop a sense of style by the age of three. If you give your children the freedom to choose a wardrobe, it helps them to develop self-confidence. When you ridicule the choice of children, you thereby reduce their ability to express their own individuality. Be ready for experiments, finding yourself, and at some point - to imitate peers. Watch the mood of the child, which manifests itself in too gloomy shades of clothing.

Material values

Children do not always understand the difference between the poor and the rich. Adults are much more focused on material values, spoiling their offspring with the latest iPhone models, expensive toys or designer things. In this case, it's silly to ridicule the envy of peers. After all, you yourself are guilty of forming class differences.